Phrases included “self-loathing race traitor”, “trailer trash” and “meghan the queen, of monkey island”.
The "Truth Hurts" singer told a fan on Twitter that she's been working on loving herself for the 10 years: "Give your growth time."
Our sense of self is often a divided thing. Most of us have a side in us that is "on our own team." It encourages and supports us. It helps us fight for what we want and believes in what we can achieve.
I speak fast because you'll stop listening soon and your hands will scream. With that said, these are my last words.
Stigma keeps us from talking about mental illness, but it's time to raise our voices now that we've suffered the largest
The last thing Obama's final roasting didn't need to end on is associating him with the n-word - even as an act of thanks and brotherly love.
So for the New Year (2016), I hope that the creamy crack, weaves (glue and tracks) and wigs will continue to be left behind for Black women. Also, departing from straightening combs, flat irons, and blow dryers will be an added move toward self-love, in terms of embracing natural hair.
Occasionally you realize someone you thought was a dear friend is actually a foe, their true character finally revealed. But how do you forgive the unforgivable? Here are my 10 steps to handling betrayal with elegance and grace.
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No matter what the etiology, the goal is to recognize the problem, learn from it, and extricate oneself as soon as possible to avoid loss of time and energy. If allowed to persist, the condition can result in inertia and hopelessness.
But the worst Facebook numbers game (at least for me) is how many people send birthday greetings. I always send out birthday
In truth, we don't need studies to tell us that a self-esteem deficit clearly exists in our society. Just talk to any teenager, or small child for that matter, and ask them if there is something that they feel critical of in themselves. The answers are sure to shock you.
Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.
I'm not ready for Sienna to have her mom's sailor mouth, but eventually, when she's a teen, I don't want her to be afraid of speaking the language of her classmates and once she reaches adulthood, I hope to be ready for her to speak such words in my presence as part of normal conversation because the reality is that cursing is ordinary and sometimes, often even, acts as a release for pent up stress.
In that moment I realized there was a huge part of me that I hadn't been working on in all of my years of therapy. It was an obvious piece of my cycles of dysfunction, but I was too consumed by my symptoms to see it. Through deep, heaving sobs I finally understood that I hated myself.
The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.
It took 10 years post-gynecomastia surgery for me to go to the beach and take off my shirt because I still felt those now phantom breasts and stares.
What if we could really be mirrors for each other -- and believe the truths that our greatest friends reflected back to us?
Sitting in meetings, or just talking to people outside of them, I'd hear stuff that some could say was were nearly cliché-like in its simplicity but it made so much sense that I couldn't help repeating it to nearly everyone I came into contact with.
I catch myself hating the flabby, flailing, squishy parts of my body as though they are rotten. As though they are an alien parasite from a bad horror movie infesting my good, clean, true, thinner body.
Competitive feelings are an indication of what we want, and acknowledging what we want is key to getting to know ourselves.