Not your average Bond girl.

Pheromones are chemical secretions believed to be used mostly by ants and by singles as a way to find each other. In humans, pheromones are secreted by sweat and body fluids, generally released in a singles bar setting. Ants, on the other hand, mostly confine themselves to pantries.

I was at a dinner party recently, chatting up a small group of men and women, all of us around the same age, when someone made a joke about aging. My ears perked and I blurted that I had turned The Big 5-O. They were stunned.

Here's an if-a-tree-falls-in-the-forest question: if society didn't tell older women they were invisible, would older women still feel invisible? I loathe the power that stale older-women-are-invisible narrative wields.

The premise here is we women know precisely what traits we like in men, even if men are the last ones to figure this out. Hint: there are actually ten things we love, not just seven.