I remember feeling a bit schizophrenic about all of the festivities surrounding the holiday season. There were times when I wanted to get together with loved ones, and times I wanted to be alone, and I never quite knew when the mood for either would strike. Here are a few things I learned.
How do you keep the spirit up as you celebrate the holidays without your kids half the time, and without the family you were a part of all the time? And how do you refrain from eating an entire half-gallon of ice cream by yourself while watching It's a Wonderful Life -- with a box of tissue nearby? You focus on your blessings, especially those that are so abundant that we don't even notice them.
Wine, chicken wings and a vibrator. Sounds about right.
You don't have to buy someone something just because they want it. "Oh, you want a new PlayStation game? I just LOVE when you sit in all day and play. Of course I will contribute to the habit!"
Needless to say, it is easy to focus on the negatives of being single at the holidays. But the truth is that it isn't all bad. In fact, I believe there is a strong argument that it is better, or at least more fun, to be single during the holidays.
While all the couples are off doing couples things like holding hands while ice skating through Central Park, feeding each other pieces of pie or taking selfies smooching underneath mistletoe, us single folk are left feeling like this...
There's nothing more uncomfortable or annoying than bringing someone to a company party who knows absolutely no one. You
For lonely single people -- those not in a couple yet, or those newly out of a relationship or marriage -- the emphasis on pairing up and being part of a family at this time of year is excruciating.
Cuddling in front the fireplace. New Year's Eve kisses. Mistletoe. Considering that this was a time of year that we counted down to as kids, it can be pretty tough when you are single.
The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but does that still ring true when you're newly divorced