Spanking

Spanking is inherently violent. It is also inherently sexual.
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Study after study tells us that this kind of bullying in the name of discipline is leading to the high level of violence and child maltreatment experienced in this country. The thought of an adult, supposedly a caring adult, using such an instrument to "discipline" a child is beyond comprehension.
And despite tons of evidence that spanking is bad for kids, lots of Americans seem to be OK with it.
Ultimately and intuitively, I see no reason that spanking need continue to exist. But I am troubled by the ease with which
What I find disturbing about this trend of disciplinary commentary is the assumption that (a) the past was so dramatically
Let your child know what kind of correction to expect from other adults, by setting the right examples for him at home Encourage
Spanking can be used as a form of foreplay or it can be a stand-alone event. I have found that spanking during coitus can bring on the most powerful orgasms, I am talking serious full-body-holy-crap-orgasms that you will be talking about for weeks.
Being held in just the way you need to be by someone stronger than you are in that moment, being told what to do in the safe context of a mutually agreed upon power exchange, is pretty damn intoxicating. That is what Christian was trying to offer Ana.
With every fiber of my being, I believe that Christians must act to stop the cycle of violence and take a strong stance against hitting children for any reason. What type of world do we want to live in? What type of God do we believe in?
It seems to me that more and more, children are being singled out for punishment, retribution and abuse probably because they are such easy targets and really pose little or no threat of retaliation.
2. What does your child learn by being hit? Spanking tells a child that violence is an acceptable reaction when you are angry
It was a childrearing book. It sat on a bookshelf in our house for months until I couldn't stand the sight of it any more. Finally I got rid of it.
Desired behaviors are more likely to be learned by kids as worthwhile in their own right, not adopted under threat of harm.
It is time to flip the adage on its head to say, "I turned out OK -- not because I was spanked, but in spite of it." Current and future generations of parents can break the cycle and raise confident, well-behaved children without hitting them.
Spanking in one form or another is as American as apple pie--and the practice is deeply rooted in, and most often defended by, a reading of traditional translations of the English Bible.
Last week NFL player Adrian Peterson turned himself in on charges of child abuse after a session of disciplining his 4-year-old son left cuts, welts and bruises on the boy's body. The gruesome incident sparked a national debate about whether or not it's ever OK for a parent to hit a child. Research shows the answer is a resounding "No!"
Our mindset must change on discipline and the manner in which our children are disciplined when behaving badly.
Without arbitrary consequences for their defiance, I guess we're going to have to teach them the actual reasons why they should listen to our instructions. This presents two challenges. We're going to need good reasons, and somehow we have to get them to believe us.