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Study after study tells us that this kind of bullying in the name of discipline is leading to the high level of violence and child maltreatment experienced in this country. The thought of an adult, supposedly a caring adult, using such an instrument to "discipline" a child is beyond comprehension.
And despite tons of evidence that spanking is bad for kids, lots of Americans seem to be OK with it.
Ultimately and intuitively, I see no reason that spanking need continue to exist. But I am troubled by the ease with which
What I find disturbing about this trend of disciplinary commentary is the assumption that (a) the past was so dramatically
Being held in just the way you need to be by someone stronger than you are in that moment, being told what to do in the safe context of a mutually agreed upon power exchange, is pretty damn intoxicating. That is what Christian was trying to offer Ana.
It seems to me that more and more, children are being singled out for punishment, retribution and abuse probably because they are such easy targets and really pose little or no threat of retaliation.
It was a childrearing book. It sat on a bookshelf in our house for months until I couldn't stand the sight of it any more. Finally I got rid of it.
Desired behaviors are more likely to be learned by kids as worthwhile in their own right, not adopted under threat of harm.
Last week NFL player Adrian Peterson turned himself in on charges of child abuse after a session of disciplining his 4-year-old son left cuts, welts and bruises on the boy's body. The gruesome incident sparked a national debate about whether or not it's ever OK for a parent to hit a child. Research shows the answer is a resounding "No!"
Our mindset must change on discipline and the manner in which our children are disciplined when behaving badly.