stepparent advice

The family unit in America has eroded over the last 20 years. Today, families eat alone, rush to and from children's schedules, think about work during family dinners, disregard formal manners, sleep irregular hours, yell, berate each other and above all else, DO NOT communicate.
Parents -- your kids are going to eventually develop the good sense to wear a jacket and eat vegetables, invest your energy in how they interact within society. If we insist on being the hovering Helicopter Parent Generation, let's at least hover in the right places.
"It seemed like a lot of work in the early years but it was worth it."
I want for my sons and stepsons this holiday what I want for all of us: peace on earth, goodwill toward others, respectful tolerance of each other's differences. That said. In addition to those humble and noble things, I want some other things for them and from them.
"Like -- or love -- does not happen in any specific timeframe."
"I always try to remember that they did not sign up for any of this, including another parent telling them what to do!"