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"We're all victims, both the gay spouse and the straight spouse are victims."
Bonnie Kaye, M.Ed., is an internationally known author and counselor to straight women who are married to gay men. She also counsels closeted gay men on how honesty can help them and their female spouses. Here she answers my question.
Carlos and Sara explain their unique relationship. They are still married despite Sara having come out of the closet and wanting relationships with women.
'Collateral Damage' In The LGBT Community: Straight Spouses, Still In The Darkest Corner Of The Closet
Tucked in a corner of the lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgender closet is a little-known group: straight women and men in heterosexual marriages whose husbands or wives come out as gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender after marrying them as "the right thing to do."