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SM: Having a talk about money is important, whether you are close to your family or not. Even if it feels awkward or emotional
Death was all around me. The first time was when I was seven years old and the phone rang at 2 a.m. disrupting our family’s
On the porch of my childhood home, a plaque hung on the exposed beams, just about where your eyes would naturally rest when you were gazing up in thought. The plaque contained a quote, attributed to Abraham Lincoln: 'Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt.'
The deep brown shade that glazed the wood was almost heavier than the door. It melted the light that snuck in via the stained glass of glittering gold and grassy green into hues and shadows that crashed by the waves of my shivering feet.
Darkness is air that is cool and free and fresh - tucked, sealed, licked, sent in an envelope; bent, gone from hope; lent
"We are getting rewired to interact with aliens."
The strange, gorgeous creature I pushed out of me two years ago has pulled me out of my comfort zone ever since, like yarn unspooling, drawing me out, or perhaps back to a place where I lived as a child -- in the present, in this moment, where I hear birds singing and I taste the warm rain.
Not only is it challenging for Generation X to understand the new millennial mating rules of the 21st century, it's difficult for millennials themselves to understand them, since there's often so much grey area. Here, we try to define the terms explicitly, so we can all get on the same dating page. Even though dating is dead.
After you know the right people, who those people are, and have taken the time to listen to them, you can then easily transition to being understood. The key to being understood is to clearly and concisely convey what you are interested in doing.
When a baby takes his first steps it's hugely significant--but it pales in comparison to a child learning to speak. Going mobile matters. But it's merely mechanical. Learning to speak is like the moment the caveman first discovered fire. It's a game changer.
You're going to a party, networking event or cocktail hour to meet new contacts and make connections. However, you always have a problem figuring out how to approach people, no matter what the situation.
My recent Sunday Review essay, adapted from my book “Reclaiming Conversation,” made a case for face-to-face talk. The piece
GPS for the Soul
I really don't underestimate the power of listening. Listening enables me to learn much more about someone else, to discover new opportunities, to gain respect of another, to hear about different perspectives and make better decisions due to having more information.
The most important thing to do when listening to a person who stutters is to act natural. Don't make fun of the person who stuttered. Don't laugh. Don't try to mimic the person. Don't say anything about learning how to talk.
Of course, talking can also be a lot more productive than typing. What often takes several emails to communicate -- like
Too often, his time with the kids is limited really to bedtime hours -- that brief window between 6:30 and 8pm. When he's home during those hours, it is imperative to me that he have his phone put away.