In the throes of your toddler’s rage, it’s perfectly healthy to wonder whether you’re observing normal childhood behavior
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"Being there and doing nothing are two very different things.”
While toddlers do have tantrums because they can't have or do what they want, I honestly believe they aren't driven by a desire to piss you off.
Think of it this way. Your child's resources have been completely used up by all of that sitting, managing, and missing. And they just plain old have nothing left.
When parents help their frustrated kids simply feel their sadness or disappointment, they move from aggression toward acceptance.
The trick to communicating successfully with 3- and 4-year-olds is to be clever, funny, clear, rested, and to have a method to calming yourself down as fast as possible.
Our job as parents is to do our best to avoid sailing into the rough waters that can cause our little ones to lose their footing and fall apart. But no matter how hard we try to prevent our children from having tantrums, there may still be times when they cannot cope with whatever demand has been placed on them. Perhaps they're tired or hungry, or they could be feeling overly jealous or hurt.
Avoid finger pointing. When you make a mistake, admit it -- without trying to say it was because of what someone did or didn't do. When we show our children what it looks like to take full responsibility for our actions, they are much more likely to freely admit when they've made a mistake.
Have you ever carried a screaming toddler, over your shoulder, up the stairs and out of a birthday party with your eldest son being dragged along behind as you do? We have. This past Sunday actually.
The mom hopes other parents realize she wasn't ignoring her daughter's feelings. "I would never do this if I thought it would
I am that mom, and these are strangely some of the most sacred moments of parenting. When it isn't easy -- but it's still so good. When God reveals himself to me through my boys. I think back to that mom that I judged from years ago, and I understand important things about life I didn't know then. I'm grateful for the shift in perspective.