During adolescence boys are searching for their identity, focused outside the family on friends and school and wanting more say in the rules they live by at home. Curfews, technology usage, choice of friends, dating, sexual practices, alcohol and drug use are all open questions.
As we stand on the cusp of zits and body hair and raging hormones, I am beginning to think about the type of teenager I want him to be in a couple of years. And the type of man I want him to eventually become.
I had text, "love you" many times in the past, without a mirrored response; never expecting, never needing one. So it was reading this text, in the back seat of a taxi, on my way to the airport, that my heart swelled, my eyes pooled with tears, and I smiled. Because he said he loved me.
I thought it was all about big boys, who should have known better, shaking me down for candy. Then again, some things don't make sense until you've lived them with your own child -- and not a moment sooner.
I love salty food. Perhaps that is because I have low blood pressure. I also love garlic and onions. Perhaps that is because I have no taste buds left, after decades of eating the spiciest food I can shovel down and smoking Marlboro Lights in college.
Now, for the first time in over thirty years, hearing a new song -- or a beloved familiar one -- makes me break out in goose
The lures are everywhere -- all the billboards and trailers featuring abs and pecs and glutes. Many boys start out wanting to achieve physical perfection and then spiral down into full-blown eating disorders.
I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage daughter seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a female sees you in a state of undress, she can't ever un-see it? You don't want my daughter to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?
Mrs. Hall takes all of the responsibility of her sons' sexual behavior and puts it on these teenage girls. Maybe you missed the memo, Mrs. Hall but we've all decided that it's better to teach our boys not to rape than to teach our girls to protect themselves.
Remember, how you talk to and respond to your son's physical appearance has a profound impact on what he thinks and feel about himself.
The literary world has lost the teenage boy. When school begins in the fall and I ask my students who read a book this summer, only a few male hands will reach skyward. I'll be ostensibly upset because there was a summer reading assignment, but deep down I'll somewhat understand.
Collecting data with hundreds of male students across three high schools in the south of England, I found a new generation of young men had redefined masculinity in ways unrecognizable to their fathers. Here are 10 of my favorite differences.