The problem with texting -- other than misspells and auto correct -- is the lack of context. So much of human communications is based on facial expressions and voice tonality -- and without those two things -- it's very difficult to read nuance.
"What are they doing? Wait, no, I don't want to know! Do I?"
For example, that interesting yet profoundly anxiety-producing time with my apparently-not-former friend. Was she being rude for ignoring me? Or, against my better judgment, had I been rude for messaging her insistently? Was I hounding her or was she ghosting me?
I asked a group of my students to try the Birdwhistell/Goffman experiment a la 2015: for one day, instead of texting the messages they normally would send to their family and friends and classmates, they should call.
Thou shalt follow these rules.
Since texting plays a huge role in in the dating process, the study highlights what men and women like and dislike when receiving text messages. Here are some dos and don'ts to consider before pushing the send button.
Men and women treat texting differently, but, for both, confusion, paranoia, irritation and anxiety reign in the kingdom of digital dating. While she waits for his text, he stares at the dot, dot, dot of the iMessage, wondering what she's going to say next.
HuffPost Blogger Jennifer Benjamin has come out with a startling confession: When I text, email, and IM, I talk like a freaking preteen.
No, I don't take selfies, I don't twerk, and I don't follow One Direction, but I use so many acronyms, you'd think I was writing in NSA-level code. My emails are studded with so many exclamation points that the page looks like a paint-splattered Jackson Pollock.