It wasn’t an easy situation for anyone involved.
"Walking down the street is so glorious -- I can actually think!"
Imagine that you've been transitioning for years and gone through all the happiness of having a 'second puberty'-your voice changing, body hair growing, shoulders broadening-and then suddenly you wake up with a pain you never thought you would have to face again.
"I wanted to show that trans men come in all shapes and sizes and that some don't take hormones or have surgery and that's okay."
I've learned over time and with experience that there are times to educate and times when it's best to be the trans ninja. I sometimes take a step back and evaluate how people will best receive and be open to listening to me. In my humble opinion, we can make more positive change by being warm, friendly, and respectful even to those who don't get us right now.
No pregnant trans man has been denied access to reproductive health services, according to reports; the problem lies with trans men feeling excluded by the language of providers. Well, it's not always about you or me, and demanding that the language that speaks to and empowers tens of millions of women should be neutralized so as not to offend a handful of trans men is unfair.
Jessie listed questions he thinks most people want to know the answer to but are too afraid to ask. Here I paraphrase his answers, which are based on his own experience and may not represent the experiences of every transgender person, but his responses reflect his own experience openly and honestly.
Kris said that he knows now that he stopped transitioning because he was terrified of never finding love as a transgender person. But only a couple months later, Kris would start a journey that would prove how very wrong he was.
My heart belongs to the ladies on 14th Street who stood with me night after night, trying to survive and just be their authentic selves. I cry today for those ladies who are no longer here with us in 2014, but my heart remembers them.
Since puberty I've experienced gender dysphoria but developed coping mechanisms to ignore it. It got harder with age. Having just turned 33 and returned from another month-long tour, I felt more depressed than ever. With every single performance the pain of the lie was perpetuated.
Chef Chris Trapani, the First Transgender Chef to Appear on the Food Network, Discusses Love, Transistioning and Food
We discussed love, transitioning and his passion for food. Chris is now a proud and happy transgender male, standing tall
In February 2014 Queerty, the online magazine and newspaper focusing on gay topics, ran a piece titled "Seriously Sexy Trans Men Make Us Say 'Mmmm!'" What's interesting and horrid about the article? The comment section, which displayed the pervasive lack of understanding of transgender identities within the gay community.
'I'll Be Damned If I'm Going to Be Buried a Girl': Gender Transition Inspires HIV-Positive Trans Man to Live (VIDEO)
"It's not life-or-death," "It's cosmetic," "You need therapy, not surgery," and "It will burden taxpayers" are among the many toxic myths in need of exploding. So -- with the caveats that this list is not exhaustive and I am no medical expert -- it's time to bust some myths!
Manhood is an accomplishment, an internal need and quest, for both cis and trans men. When we acknowledge this, the necessity and intelligibilty of questions like "But how do you know?" fades away. Seeing this will help dismantle one of the structuring cultural approaches to transgender people: mistrust.
One day I met a man who helped me redefine what my sexuality means to me. This guy, whom I will refer to as "James," was attractive: He had this way with words, and a smile that took my breath away. James happens to be transgender; he was assigned "female" at birth.