And everybody learns in the process.
In our own writings, in the words that are found in articles, blog posts, and our own minds, we unintentionally reinforce the message we most need to confront. We do this when we talk about "becoming a woman" or "becoming a man." We do this when we use the word "transition."
I'm gay-friendly. Always have been. And proud of it. But I am ashamed to say that until quite recently, this wasn't the case when it came to transgender people. For a very long time I saw trans people as gay people who were ashamed or afraid to be themselves.
We must not just tell our stories to change the minds of strangers who might do us harm so that one day we'll be safe to walk down our streets; we must keep telling our stories, wholly and completely, to those who love us so that they can hold and support us and sustain us.
The surgery date for mid-October 2013 was taken off the surgery schedule and delayed indefinitely. Why this happened is still a mystery that I would like to solve. But Danielle was not willing to wait. She took another road to becoming what she couldn't wait one minute more to become.
Dr. Kortney Ryan Ziegler is a writer, filmmaker, producer, artist and activist fighting for social justice in the trans community. My interview with Dr. Ziegler discusses race, gender, the fight for equality and the empowerment of the transgender community.
In the last 72 hours I've received more death threats, rape threats, abuse and hatred than I can count. I'm transgender, and on Sunday, Sept. 29, I found my name spreading across the gaming community for identifying the man who'd misgendered me.
Recently I had a powerful dream in which I was the subject of a complicated mystical ceremony of the sacred Earth spirits to make my body truly female. No, it wouldn't change my boy parts to girl parts -- I'd still need surgery for that -- but it would mean that my body was truly female.
The recent publication of some of Bradley Manning's personal emails and photos about his gender dysphoria, including admissions from his psychiatrist during the sentencing phase of his trial for espionage, once again raise the issue of the "closet" and the pathology created within it.
I have a new appreciation for the value of clean facilities and having the toilet seat down. In all honesty, I haven't quite figured out exactly how all of this pee-in-a-cup-while-sitting-down stuff works. I mean, for the first 54 years of my life, it was a pretty simple process.