The Stanford professor and author of The Asshole Survival Guide explains how we get confused—and why we need to end certain relationships. (Yes, he uses the a-word, but his points are scarily good.)
Of all the bad things that can happen when you're in a relationship, one of the worst is losing your identity. It's painful AF and you'll carry the after effects longer than you think. Here's how you know if you've already lost yourself or if you're on the way to it:
Not all abuse is physical.
So give it a try, when your boss goes off on you, or your mother-in-law criticizes your mothering. Consider that an injured part of them makes them mean. Don't take it personally. Take a deep breath, detach.
You know who treats you poorly, you know who tears you down instead of building you up. What you may not know, is how to remove these toxic people from your life.
Toxic means poisonous, damaging or deadly. A toxic relationship drains the life from you, damages your self-esteem, or kills your dreams. While this sounds deadly, toxic relationships can be subtle and do vast harm before we realize it.
It might take a life-shattering illness nipping at the life you have built for yourself. But once you realize you are in a desperate relationship, it's time to get real with yourself and your goals for the future. Because one fact about desperate relationships endures: They don't.
If you're not careful, toxic people can negatively influence the way you think, feel, and behave. They can introduce unnecessary stress into your life and cause chaos that will drag you down. Here are nine telltale signs toxic people are getting the best of you: