The Stanford professor and author of The Asshole Survival Guide explains how we get confused—and why we need to end certain relationships. (Yes, he uses the a-word, but his points are scarily good.)
When an event like this happens in the future, I can make it better by... Note: Do not try this if you are still upset. When
Of all the bad things that can happen when you're in a relationship, one of the worst is losing your identity. It's painful AF and you'll carry the after effects longer than you think. Here's how you know if you've already lost yourself or if you're on the way to it:
Not all abuse is physical.
GPS for the Soul
So give it a try, when your boss goes off on you, or your mother-in-law criticizes your mothering. Consider that an injured part of them makes them mean. Don't take it personally. Take a deep breath, detach.
You know who treats you poorly, you know who tears you down instead of building you up. What you may not know, is how to remove these toxic people from your life.
Toxic means poisonous, damaging or deadly. A toxic relationship drains the life from you, damages your self-esteem, or kills your dreams. While this sounds deadly, toxic relationships can be subtle and do vast harm before we realize it.
It might take a life-shattering illness nipping at the life you have built for yourself. But once you realize you are in a desperate relationship, it's time to get real with yourself and your goals for the future. Because one fact about desperate relationships endures: They don't.
If you're not careful, toxic people can negatively influence the way you think, feel, and behave. They can introduce unnecessary stress into your life and cause chaos that will drag you down. Here are nine telltale signs toxic people are getting the best of you:
Put very simply, if a relationship (whether it be a friend, a family member or a significant other) makes you feel bad, you shouldn't be in it. That's not to say that relationships aren't complex and multifaceted, and not every interaction will be sunshine and rainbows.
If you're in one of these relationships and have been for some time, even though you know you need to get out, these are the five fears that might be keeping you stuck and their antidotes.
Instead of looking for love that is unhealthy, or in all the wrong places, or giving in to something that feels manufactured or fake, or simply going the other direction and cynically resisting love altogether, I'm going to try a middle way.
To understand a DUD (deliberate under-dating) breakup, you have to rewind the story of the person suffering from it -- because behind every person suffering from a DUD breakup, there's usually an earlier breakup that set the stage.
Changing and growing as a couple, as well as individually, is a crucial key to a maintaining a strong, healthy relationship. While the safety of familiarity and a certain amount of sameness are necessary and comforting to you both, new ideas and opinions add spice to your partnership and help to keep it fresh and exciting.
Though nutrition is key to a proper detox, what is equally important is whether you are digesting your life or not. Is life nourishing you or eating you alive? Are you satisfied and fulfilled with the life you have created?
As adults we are each responsible and accountable for what we create, promote, and allow in our lives and how our behavior affects others -- no matter how justifiable we believe our attitudes and behaviors to be.
The relationship was a total roller coaster, and it definitely had it's thrills, but the thrills came at a cost. Every time we'd go out I felt pressured to drink more than I was comfortable with. I did it in part to impress them and also to ease the anxiety I was feeling.
Barnacled attachments are often created when a person's early attachments to their parents were distant, avoidant, or inconsistent
Yes, there was something wrong, but it wasn't with me, and my cyber sex was nothing more than a symptom of something bigger. It was my way of showing that I felt out of control and helpless.