The shame was bad enough without all the physical discomfort that went along with having a vulva with lips large enough that they rubbed against my thighs.
Jacqueline Secor painted her way to self-love, one vulva at a time.
“The only way to change the way [...] individuals experience their bodies is to educate them, and others, about the natural diversity."
A couple married for at least three decades had their first conversation about swinging. I probably owe them the cost of
Knit one, vulva two. Or is it knit one, purl two? I'm definitely late coming to this party but better late than never. I thought that after the Vaginal Yogurt scandal and my crack reporting on Vaginal Weightlifting that the hoo hoo was out of wondrous activities. I was wrong. Again. I give you Vaginal Knitting.
Accessing "Creative Eroticism" in your life is something you have complete control of. Sometimes it floods in with a new lover, or muse -- but most of the time we have to bring it to ourselves. Learning how to have bring it, channel it and access it is not rocket science.
You have to let go of the idea that women over the age of 50 have a diminishing or lower libido after menopause. That simply does not have to be true. What may be more to the point is the need to let go of their own perceptions of what sexuality is all about.
You pushed a human out of your body. It's not likely to look the same. And guess what? Mine doesn't either. Or my Ferrari neighbor's. Or your best friend's. Or your sister's. All the vulvas look different after babies and also they look different from each other. That not just OK, it's normal.
It is not a competition but if it were, the clit would have much more of a fighting chance than you might think. With nearly twice the number of nerve endings and a blood supply that allows it to orgasm over and over again, the clitoris packs a whole lot of punch.
You're normal! Your guy friends are assholes and wrong! You shouldn't date any of them! But you should date other guys -- now, often, lots, slowly. And when you get naked, don't apologize for a thing.