I wasn’t failing. In fact, it was the complete opposite.
When we are fully absorbed in an activity, the mind tends to get focused and more pointed. "Me" time away from business-at-hand allows the mind to become steadier, quieter, promoting more awareness, harnessing new energy, becoming more attentive.
The moral of the story -- sometimes it pays to say no and walk away from the things that are not serving you. And when you do walk away -- reflect back, learn and take that knowledge forward with you for the rest of your journey.
Too often we focus so much on a door that has closed abruptly and unexpectedly in our faces that we don't realize that the world is full of other doors that are open to us. You won't find your happiness demanding that a certain closed and locked door reopen; all you will do is miss seeing alternate avenues of opportunities that are available to you.
As a psychologist who studies motivation, I spend a lot of time trying to figure out why people give up too soon when trying to reach a goal. But the truth is, a lot of us suffer from the opposite problem: not knowing when, or how, to quit.
What happens when you walk away from an underwater mortgage? Are you arrested? Are you shunned? Do your kids decide they hate you?
"I pulled up in the truck. He knew, the dog knew, 'I don’t recognize this place. Something's gonna happen and I don't wanna
The costs to the person who can't see reason, in terms of time, effort and lost opportunities for happiness, can be enormous. We recognize this kind of foolishness immediately in others, but that doesn't stop us from making the same mistake ourselves. Why?
By comparison, last year lenders foreclosed on more than 2.8 million homes, a record, according to real estate research firm