In the end, the wedding was beautiful and the bride was surprisingly relaxed and sweet on her wedding day. I got to see the girl I met a year ago, and it was a relief for all us involved in her planning. But, everything in-between certainly made the planning more difficult. And, really? Was it worth it?
So, will a wedding planner save you money? Yes! But, probably not the total cost of their fee. But, they will save you a tremendous amount of time (the new money), and all of your sanity... How can you put a price tag on that?
As someone who has worked in the wedding industry with reputable planners, vendors and venues for over ten years, I am often surprised by how the outside world views us. I hear again and again from people who are unfamiliar with our industry that we quote different rates for weddings than we do for other events and even charge more for weddings.
1. Apologize when you're being an entitled bitch. We get it, you're getting married! It doesn't give you carte blanche to
Your wedding planner and wedding vendors want you to be happy on your wedding day, and that means we have to deliver as promised
You've read the title of this article and thought "Damn, of course they are going to like me. I'm awesome!" Or "I am paying them. It's their job to like me." If you are the later, this one is for you.
It's a touchy subject for the industry because we are really tired of being taken advantage of, particularly when it comes to appointments... Making them, keeping them, and fucking around with our time. Therefore you need to know the rules of engagement (sorry, couldn't help it!). Ready?
Being a bride is a full-time job in itself, but you probably also have a day job that requires your undivided attention too. So how do you manage it all? Compartmentalizing is key. But how?
6. If you desperately want a top notch film maker to capture your wedding, and have a limited budget, consider one of the
Bridey, I gotta ask you a question... Who's in charge? Who's wearing the pants? And, I'm not talking about your relationship with your sig other. Not only is it none of my business, but I don't give a sh*t.
In yesteryear (is that a word I really just used?!), weddings were pretty straightforward. There was the cake, flowers, venue, decor, and music. Brides chose things that her and her fiancé liked, but she was less concerned with it reflecting their personality as a couple. Times have a-changed.
If there was a site for vendors to review brides in the same way you very publicly review us, would that change your behavior during wedding planning? Would it change how you treat people knowing that your behavior and conduct could leave a lasting impression not only on your vendors, but on your career too?
In many cases, tips will be calculated in your contracts. For other vendors, tipping is not an obligation.