when men divorce
Sometimes I'd walk into the living room to find my wife watching 16 and Pregnant or some other TV show I thought was stupid
This dad's weekly ritual with his sons is super sweet -- and sans smartphones!
Men often don't have a network of "besties" to help them through a divorce. Our guy friends are busy with work and their kids' sports schedules, often helping out with coaching duties or whatnot. You'll get a few offers to "grab a beer" and catch up, but those offers will go away. Divorce for men can be very isolating.
Looking at myself in the mirror, something clicked in me. I no longer wanted to be beat down and depressed.
There is something about single parenting that is, or at least can be, satisfying beyond what I ever expected.
We separate. We come together and we separate, wholly and completely, all the time now.
It wasn't my choice to get divorced, and for a while I held extreme bitterness at my ex for having destroyed what was, at least on paper, a "perfect" life.
It happened in the produce aisle of the Vons at the corner of PCH and Sunset Boulevard.
Many fathers who are divorced will agree that the most difficult part is not being with your children every day and feeling like you've become a visitor in their lives.
In a gray divorce, with a marriage that lasted two decades or more, when it comes to the friends you shared as a couple, the man is going to get hurt.
Men, most tend to shield their emotions. They kind of go about their life and act like nothing ever happened.
"I can't even remember what life was like before them."