People expect you to be emotional at the beginning of grief. Now is the time to share, because two years from now they won't be so willing to listen.
You will know when the time is right for you.
This Post originally appeared on the website, Young, Widowed & Dating. YW&D is dedicated to helping the young, widowed community
Sometime after the death of your spouse, you will think about dating, especially if you liked being married. This may be in a month; it may be in five years. Whenever you start, you'll probably feel guilty, like you're cheating on your wife, husband, or partner.
In the winter of 1994, rather suddenly, I found myself widowed. With a ten year-old son and a thirteen year-old daughter
It’s often said there is no word in the dictionary that describes a parent who has lost a child. I’ve also discovered there
I do not recall my children, my family, the Rabbi's words or my friends. I do not remember how I arrived at the funeral or
"She’s left huge shoes for me to fill when I become a mother someday."
Are you comparing your dreams (or lack thereof) to the dreams of others? Are you worrying about dreams that you are having -- or NOT having -- about someone you have lost? Let's put those worries to rest.
I've learned that love and time really do heal -- that's not just corny sentiment. Our hearts are incredibly resilient and it is human nature to find a way to get back up and keep moving forward.
Men need to talk about their grief before their emotions shut them down, their faces go hard, their hearts constrict and turn bitter like walnuts, and they no longer care about themselves or anyone else.
Knowing that part of Evelyn is still alive and walking around in four women brings me a great deal of comfort, as does the thought that I might meet them one day.
Many people have not lost someone close. They want to help and take the pain away, but they haven't experienced grief and often say what makes those who are grieving feel worse. These are some of the phrases I heard after my wife died. If you're inclined to say them to someone who is grieving, do this instead -- ask how the person is doing, and listen.