A "successful" divorce doesn't mean doing better than your spouse. It means minimizing your emotional scars and arriving at an outcome that puts you in a better situation than all possible alternatives, which in many cases is the most you can hope for.

Being persistent is not the same thing as not quitting. Persisting is getting up and trying again. To be successful, we need to know when to quit, especially if we've been doing something that is destined to fail.