yelling at kids
Because experts say that it truly does not work.
Lisa Belkin, Jayme Weiden, Dr. George Holden and Jenny Feldon join Ricky, admitting to sometimes yelling at their kids due to frustration and how to deal with those feelings in a more productive way.
"I'm crying because you are yelling at me!" said Liam when I told him to stop. "I'm yelling at you because you are crying," I said. Which not only underlined the absurdity of the situation, but made me feel so proud of my parenting and my ability to manage myself and a 9-year-old. Sigh.
We identify with our children, and their faults make us more furious when they feel familiar. We may worry their actions are a reflection of us.
Take care of yourself. Prioritize sleep, exercise, me-time, and connecting with friends so that you are in a better place to combat personal things that can push you to yell, like hunger, exhaustion, feeling overwhelmed and experiencing any tough feeling of parenthood.
I am making progress -- I am yelling less and loving more -- and that is what matters to me more than perfection.
I am often stressed out. And as much as I hate to admit it, I can't always hide this side of myself from my kids.
Only my kids have heard that bellow. Only they know the volume my voice can reach when I call upon every last ounce of me to carry out anger. When I've reached my limit and I want to be damned sure that everyone in earshot knows it, my children are the only ones around.