yes means yes
We live in a world of imperfect choices. Somethings may never be completely right or wrong. Decide to decide and move forward. If you take the world as it comes, hopefully you'll get it more right than wrong.
There was an obvious difference in the way my rapist and I had interpreted the incident, and his response gave little indication of any remorse for the irreparable damage done that night. A disturbing thought formed: What if he doesn't know what he's done?
While the intent of 'Yes Means Yes' is admirable -- and certainly more communication about and around sex is not a bad thing -- government seeking to regulate sex, or any other act, on such a micro level is a symptom of a culture marked by extreme over-parenting -- and it is dangerously enabling.
Why should not sex premised on mutuality, respect and joint agreement -- rather than sex premised on pressure, intimidation, and acquiescence -- be an administratively-endorsed, and administratively-enforced standard?
While the best way to get consent is verbally, it's not the only option. Yes, consent can be and given and received through other cues such as body language and reciprocation. Yes, can be given in other ways.
Anushay Hossain, Katie McDonough and Robin Marty join HuffPost Live to discuss California's new "Yes Means Yes" bill.