For years, I saved articles on how to determine whether an elderly person needs more help or a change of living situation. But when the time came to intervene with my own mother -- widowed and living alone -- I was utterly unprepared for the emotions that flared and the strain it put on our relationship.
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Sometimes I think when we exchange those little glances and giggles about our dear old loved ones -- even when they show us glimpses of brilliance -- the joke is really on us. Maybe when we reach the age of "old," in between the crazy babbling and the far-off stares, we know exactly what we're doing, and what we're teaching.
As Clare's needs for care increased due to worsening anxiety and confusion in recent months, I had to agree to hire a PDA ... personal daily aide ... in order for her to remain at her ALR. I was told that her ALR did not have sufficient staffing to assist individual residents during meals or to redirect residents who lose focus during activities.
If no supervisor is present during morning and evening hours, caregivers should try to visit loved ones on different days and at different times to observe how their loved ones are cared for. Should less than outstanding care be observed, AD caregivers must then become advocates and meet with their loved one's dementia unit administrator to remedy those situations.