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Thanks to our multicultural society, you may find yourself at a wedding this summer that celebrates in ways you aren't familiar with — and we're here to help. Each week, the HuffPost Canada Living team will take a look at a different culture's wedding and tell you about the customs, traditions and rules that go along with celebrating your friends' big days.
In the Filipino culture, weddings are seen as very festive events, where the entire community comes together in celebration of the couple.
"Marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic church (which is the Philippines' dominant religion), so it is serious business," says Janis Martinello, principal event planner at Brocade Events, who has worked on several Filipino weddings. "The couple has the support of an entire community of friends and family to help keep their marriage strong."
Family is of particular note at a Filipino wedding, with parents, grandparents, godparents and close friends given honours in the ceremony, resulting in wedding parties of between 30 to 50 people.
Primary sponsors are the couple's godparents, who stand with them during the ceremony, while secondary sponsors are those chosen for the coin, candle, and veil and cord portions of the ceremony out of respect. Each person who participates agrees to help guide and support the couple during their marriage.
And though the ceremony is serious, the reception is all about having fun, with drinks flowing, food everywhere and plenty of dances (even some that include pinning money on the couple and of course, line dancing). Go into it prepared to have a good time, says Martinello, and stay out all night.
"They are a blast!" she says.
Check out the 13 things you should know about attending a Filipino wedding:
Guest Code: Filipino Weddings
Where Is it?(01 of158)
Filipino wedding ceremonies are traditionally held in Catholic churches, as Catholicism is the most commonly practiced religion in the Philippines. This is generally followed by a reception at a banquet hall. (credit:nautiluz56 via Getty Images)
How Long Is The Ceremony?(02 of158)
The ceremony tends to be quite long with a full Catholic mass (including communion) on top of the sacrament of marriage. Expect the ceremony to take up to an hour and a half. If you are not Catholic, you cannot take part in communion, but you are welcome to follow along (which means a lot of standing up and sitting down) with the rest of the ceremony and mass. (credit:LouieBaxter via Getty Images)
Is There A Bridal Party?(03 of158)
Definitely. The bridal parties in a modern Filipino wedding tend to be larger than most. It is not uncommon to see eight to 12 bridesmaids and groomsmen in a wedding, as well as their primary and secondary sponsors. (credit:Greg Elms via Getty Images)
What Happens During The Ceremony?(04 of158)
First there's the processional, which is very long — it is usually between 30 and 50 people. It consists of the primary sponsors and secondary sponsors (the coin, candle, and veil and cord sponsors), the wedding party, the bride and groom (who are usually accompanied by both parents), and grandparents are sometimes included as well.The coin ceremony has the candle sponsors bringing coins to be blessed by the priest, and the groom will then offer them to the bride, and ask her to accept them. She will say yes, and take the coins from the groom. In the candle ceremony, the candle sponsors each light a candle to symbolize the presence of God in the marriage. Many couples will later light a unity candle from the two flames.
Are Rings Exchanged?(05 of158)
Yes, a typical ring and vow exchange happens during the wedding ceremony.Usually after the exchange of rings and vows, the couple will kneel, and the veil is wrapped around the groom’s shoulders, and over the bride's head, and pinned by the sponsors. The cord is then wrapped around the couple. These are both symbols of the bride and groom becoming one. (credit:tonyoquias via Getty Images)
How Many People Are Invited?(06 of158)
Filipino weddings are usually larger than the average Canadian wedding with 250 to 500 guests in attendance. Not everyone attends the ceremony, but no one misses the reception. (credit:Luca Tettoni via Getty Images)
Is There A Dress Code?(07 of158)
If you are attending the ceremony in a church, it is good form to keep your shoulders covered. Other than that, standard semi-formal to formal wear is the norm. (credit:Robert Nicholas via Getty Images)
What Do I Give As A Gift?(08 of158)
A monetary gift is definitely the way to go. There is no specific amount that is expected, so give what you are comfortable with. Many guests want to at least cover the cost of their meal and drinks at the reception, and others will gill give more to help the new couple start their lives together. (credit:Ruggiero_S via Getty Images)
What Do We Eat?(09 of158)
Lechón, a Filipino dish of roasted pig, is often served at celebratory events, so that might be present at the wedding, either as the meal or part of the late night spread (which, yes, does exist). Otherwise, you can expect either a buffet or a sit-down meal, and lots and lots of food. (credit:whologwhy/Flickr)
Are There Any Customs?(10 of158)
At some point in the evening, the wedding party will place a sash on to the bride and groom. Guests will "pay" to take a turn dancing with the couple by pinning money onto the sash they are wearing, so keep a few $5 bills handy if you want to take part in this tradition. (credit:Pinterest)
What Do The Bride And Groom Wear?(11 of158)
Most brides will be wearing a modern white bridal gown. The groom and groomsmen may choose to wear a typical suit or tux, or they may be seen wearing a traditional barong (shown here), a lightweight embroidered “tunic” type of shirt. The barong is usually worn with dress pants. The parents of the bride and groom will likely be wearing traditional outfits for the ceremony, and then change for the reception. Bright colours and embroidery are common on these outfits, and sometimes the mothers' and fathers' outfits will match. (credit:Steven Frame via Getty Images)
Is There Alcohol Served?(12 of158)
Yes! And lots of it. An open bar from cocktail hour through to the end of the night is a must. You will see guests of all ages enjoying a shot at the bar in celebration of the bride and groom. (credit:manley099 via Getty Images)
What's The Party Like?(13 of158)
They are a blast! The best part of a Filipino wedding is that no one leaves early. All of the guests eat, drink, and dance until the wee hours in joyous celebration. Set aside some money for a cab, or designate a driver before showing up at a Filipino wedding reception. (credit:hydropeek/Flickr)
The Cha-Ching(14 of158)
Depending on what city you plan to get married in, a city hall wedding can cost an average of $500, not including any additional receptions or get-togethers with family and friends afterwards. (credit:bittermelon/Flickr)
How Does It Work?(15 of158)
Each city has their own set of rules on marriage. Bigger city halls have officiants on staff or a roster of freelancers who are licensed to conduct a civil wedding. Others will let you bring your own officiant. (credit:Trevor H/Flickr)
But I'm Not Invited(16 of158)
If you don't get an invite to the city hall wedding portion, don't worry. The number of guests for a city hall wedding, on average, is usually around two to 15 people. Most city halls allow around six guests per wedding and you usually need one guest to sign as a witness. (credit:bittermelon/Flickr)
When Does The Wedding Happen?(17 of158)
The bigger the city, the more windows of opportunity they’ll have for wedding ceremonies. In Toronto, for example, openings are every half hour between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m., six days a week. Smaller municipalities may have ceremonies twice a week, so couples who are interested in getting married should book in advance. But if you're willing to take the risk (and wait), go for it. Even big cities allow couples to walk in, get their license and get married on the same day. (credit:davitydave/Flickr)
The Reception(18 of158)
Since couples don't usually invite people to their wedding ceremony, they may host a reception or dinner afterwards. City hall weddings tend to last about 30 minutes, so chances are, the couple may host an after party with a larger guest list. (credit:Guanlong D./Flickr)
What Should I Wear?(19 of158)
City hall weddings can be super casual. Unless the couple tells you otherwise, you can show up in jeans, dresses or even a themed costume — zombie wedding, anyone? (credit:hilmi_m via Getty Images)
It's Not Just About You That Day(20 of158)
Weddings tend to be intimate and quiet occasions for the most part, but city hall is a busy place. You will also have to deal with the traffic of people, other celebrations and of course, protests that may be happening outside city hall. (credit:Cultura/Frank and Helena via Getty Images)
Get Your Guests To Unplug(21 of158)
Since city hall weddings are small and short, get your guests to put away their smartphones and give you all of their attention. By the time you finish taking your selfie from your seat, the wedding ceremony may already be over. (credit:Oliver Skrabl via Getty Images)
Hire A Good Photographer(22 of158)
Since you're already saving money by hosting a small wedding, consider investing in a good photographer. City hall (and nearby) can make for beautiful backdrops — the perfect way to remember your big day. (credit:bittermelon/Flickr)
Don't Forget The License(23 of158)
Before you run to city hall with your wedding gown and fancy shoes, remember to get your marriage licence there first. Once a couple receives their license, they can get married within three months of its issue date. (credit:Design Pics via Getty Images)
Should You Bring A Gift If You Go?(24 of158)
If you're invited to the reception, you can bring a gift as a kind gesture — it is a wedding, after all. Depending on how well you know the couple, anything from a monetary gift to something more personalized for the home works. (credit:JLVarga via Getty Images)
Common Trends(25 of158)
Some couples who get married at city hall first sometimes have a destination wedding after. This allows them to make their marriage legal first, and then share an intimate and party-filled wedding after (in a country where their marriage may not be legally recognized). Basically, the best of both worlds. (credit:Lane Oatey/Blue Jean Images via Getty Images)
Hey, Even The Celebs Do It!(26 of158)
You probably remember Carrie and Big getting hitched at city hall in Sex and the City movie, but celebs like Madonna and Paul McCartney have also tied the knot in a government building, according to The Frisky.
When Are Weddings Held?(27 of158)
In Vietnam, most weddings (or an hois) coincide with fieldwork season, which means couples tend to have their weddings in winter or fall months, says Toronto-based wedding planner Wendy Lee of Asian Fusion Weddings. In North America, couples often consult a fortune teller to pick the most auspicious date for the couple. (credit:Sally Dillon via Getty Images)
The Colour Red(28 of158)
Before the wedding, the groom's family arranges gifts. The wedding day starts off with the presentation of these gifts. The gifts are placed on a number of round red trays and the number of trays should be an odd number. The larger the amounts of trays, the larger amount of wealth is displayed, Lee says. "The gifts are then covered by a red colour paper or cloth. Vietnamese believe that odd number and the red colour will bring luck to the couple." (credit:Tooga via Getty Images)
The Importance Of The Gifts(29 of158)
This portion of the wedding ceremony is crucial in terms of uniting families and the couple. Other gifts include areca nuts and betel leaves for example. "Apparently the chewing of the areca nuts starts the dialogue between the two sets of parents. Therefore, it symbolizes the ideal married couple becoming inseparable," Lee says. Other important and symbolic gifts include wine, tea, pastries, sticky rice, fruits and most importantly a whole roasted suckling pig.
Family Representatives(30 of158)
During the wedding ceremony, both families choose a number of representatives (often young and unmarried). Males represent the groom bearing gifts and females represent the bride and receive the gifts, Lee says. "Next the bride's representative presents the bride to the groom. The couple kneels and prays in front of the bride's family altar asking for permission and approval from the bride's ancestors." After bowing to their parents as a sign of respect and then to each other, the groom gives his bride an engagement ring. (credit:h3nr0/Flickr)
The Dam Hoi (Tea Ceremony)(31 of158)
After the gift and ring exchange, there is a traditional tea ceremony called the dam hoi. Here, the couple serves wine or tea to their older family members, while these family members congratulate the couple with monetary gifts or jewelry. "Typically the groom's mother would put earrings or a necklace on her new daughter-in-law as a symbol of welcoming her into the groom's family,' Lee says.After this ceremony, the bride will go back to the groom's house for another tea ceremony, usually followed by a western wedding (in a white dress) and a full out reception. The actual wedding day is extremely long for both the couple and their family members.
But What About These Gifts?(32 of158)
Back to the gifts. If the engagement party isn't held on the same day, both families will feast on food the bride's family arranges. When it comes to the gifts, there isn't a 50/50 divide."The smaller part is given back to the groom’s family indicating that the groom's family has been far too generous and the bride’s family also does not want to appear as being greedy," Lee says.
What Does The Couple Wear?(33 of158)
The bride usually wears a red or pink long dress called an ao dai which includes a cloak embroidered with imperial symbols like a phoenix. She may also wear a hat called a khan dong while the groom's outfit is blue. (credit:Khánh Hmoong/Flickr)
Superstitions Are Everywhere(34 of158)
Vietnamese culture is very superstitious. Lee says it is considered unlucky for women to get married at the age of 22, 23, 26 or 28. Women are also considered "past due" by the age of 30 and for men, it's 35. Other superstitions include the couple not seeing each other before the wedding day and the bride's mother combing the bride's hair with symbolic combs for luck and happiness. (credit:John Lamb via Getty Images)
Let's Eat(35 of158)
Make sure you come with an empty belly. Lee says traditionally the dinner feast is Chinese food and six to 10 courses — with at least half the courses in seafood. "You may even find a bottle of Remy Martin cognac at each table. It is for the guests to open and consume," Lee says.
The Meet And Greet(36 of158)
During the reception, there is also a meet and greet. During this time, the couple may change back to their traditional clothes and go to each table to greet guests. Toasts will also be made to the couple. (credit:Merten Snijders via Getty Images)
The Guest (You!)(37 of158)
While the ceremonies are quite small themselves (don't be surprised if you're not invited), Lee says the receptions can get quite large. While traditionally, it was the bride's family that had to pay for the engagement party and the wedding ceremony, while the reception was covered by the groom's family, these days the couples can do a split or find a middle ground.If you're not sure what to bring as a gift, stick to money.
Where Are They Held?(38 of158)
Traditionally, wedding ceremonies were held at home for a more intimate gathering, says Sara Baig of Sara Baig Designs. However, these days, more couples are deciding to hold their ceremony and reception at an outside venue. Ceremonies can last from 45 minutes to an hour. (credit:Flickr)
The Planning(39 of158)
Persian couples can spend anywhere from $80,000 to $150,000 for their big day — or more, Baig says. Weddings are usually large, with up to 300 guests and the decor is quite extravagant.
What Should I Wear?(40 of158)
Dress up. Persian wedding are incredibly formal. Female guests wear fine jewels, long gowns and get their makeup and hair done. Men, on the other hand, wear suits and ties. (credit:Getty)
The Gift(41 of158)
Guests are expected to give monetary gifts ($100 to $200 depending on how close you are to the couple), unless it is specified otherwise on your invitation. (credit:Getty)
When You're There(42 of158)
Persian wedding receptions are filled with dancing, singing and more dancing. Baig says you can expect alcohol (unless the family is religious), a wide selection of traditional foods and sweets, and of course, cake.
The Beautiful Spread(43 of158)
A Persian wedding ceremony is called the aghd and it is the legal portion of the event. During this time, the couple is surrounded by their family and friends around the sofreh aghd. The sofreh is a spread with a collection of symbolic items including: spices, flowers, mirrors, silk linens, a basket of apples and pomegranates for a happy future, basket of hazelnuts, eggs and walnuts symbolizing fertility, the Quran, flowers and a cup of rosewater extracted especially from Persian roses. (credit:Sofreh Aghd)
The Wedding Ceremony(44 of158)
During the ceremony, the bride has a light veil covering her face and the married female relatives hold a scarf or shawl over the bride and groom's heads. "The ceremony is then culminated with the married couple feeding each other a dip of honey from the cup of honey to sweeten each others' lives with their presence," Baig says. Food is then distributed among family and friends to mark the start of the couple's union. (credit:Pinterest)
Legal Wedding(45 of158)
During the aghd, after the traditional customs, the bride and groom exchange rings and read their vows. This portion of the wedding is often only for close family members and friends.
When Are They Held?(46 of158)
Persian weddings are held throughout the year, but they are never held during the months of Muharram and Safar in the Islamic calender. Muharram is the first month of the calender and Safar is the second month — both of these months are considered forbidden.
Will I Get A Paper Invite?(47 of158)
In Korean culture, most couples will hand out wedding invitations and/or their parents will verbally invite guests face-to-face without a formal invitation. "Please do not be offended if you didn't get a paper invitation, as this does not reflect on the importance the couple has placed your relationship/friendship to them," says Toronto-based wedding planner Wendy Lee of Asian Fusion Weddings.
What Do I Wear?(48 of158)
Many of the older female family members will wear traditional Korean attire, Lee says, but guests are free to wear any business and/or casual attire. There are no colour restrictions either.
What Should I Bring?(49 of158)
Some people chose to give household items, but most guests give monetary gifts. If you are giving cash, the bill should be new. "These are usually available at the bank upon request. You can place the new bills in a white envelope, but again, the envelope should be pristine," Lee says. The amount that you give, Lee adds, should be based on your relationship to the couple.
What Will I Be Eating?(50 of158)
Lee says most Korean wedding receptions consist of Western dinners, but some couples may add traditional Korean dishes. Bulgogi (pictured here) which are marinated barbecue beef strips, galbi which are marinated short ribs and a variety of kimchi are all popular. Dok, a sticky rice cake is often served as part of the dessert or sweets table. "Another important dish is the noodle dish: long noodles symbolize the wish for a long and happy life for the couple," Lee says.
What's Up With That Duck/Goose?(51 of158)
Traditionally in Korean culture, the groom would give the bride's mother a wild goose. But these days, grooms tend to give a wooden goose or duck. "This particular animal is chosen because it is said that they mate for life. Therefore this goose/duck signifies the groom's intent to always monogamous, trustworthy, loyal, pure, and be faithful."
What Does The Bride Wear?(52 of158)
Generally, Korean brides tend to have three outfit changes. They will likely wear a white wedding gown for the wedding ceremony and change into traditional Korean wedding attire (called a hanbok) for the paebek ceremony (where the couple seeks blessings from their parents).
What Are Those Red Dots?(53 of158)
The red circles on the forehead (jonji) and the cheeks (gongi) of the bride are there to drive away evil spirits and give purity to the bride. Lee adds the dots also symbolize love towards the bride.
Will I See The Ceremony?(54 of158)
Korean wedding ceremonies are usually done in the presence of the groom's family, but Lee adds in recent years, it has become the highlight of the wedding reception with all family and friends present.
Why Is The Couple Kneeling?(55 of158)
The paebek ceremony usually starts with the parents sitting on cushions behind a low table filled with various items in front of some painted screens. "The newlyweds would be guided to this area where the bride and groom, standing side by side, will face their parents and then bow deeply to their parents. The couple will actually press their foreheads into their hands while kneeling on the floor." This symbolizes the families uniting.
I See A Lot Of Dates(56 of158)
After the bowing portion, the bride may offer the groom's parents dates and chestnuts to symbolize male and female children. The couple may also rise and give their parents cups of wine, while the parents share their advice and wisdom on marriage.
When Do Weddings Happen?(57 of158)
For perfect weather, Greeks tend to get married between the months of May and September. If the wedding is in Greece itself, this time frame is also popular.
The Cost(58 of158)
Greek weddings cost anywhere from $30,000 up to $50,000 for a guest list of 150 people and a medium range buffet. Of course, the prices vary depending on the location and the type of food and entertainment you have at the event.
Ceremonies(59 of158)
Most Greek weddings consist of standard Greek Orthodox ceremonies. If the couple chooses to skip this ceremony, they hold a small ceremony at city hall. The ceremony itself is broken down into two parts: The betrothal service begins at the door of the church where the priest blesses the rings and puts them on the couples' fingers three times — symbolizing their entwined lives. During the marriage ceremony, the bride and groom stand together with two candles (representing Jesus Christ and the light of the world) and hold stephana (wedding crowns) linked together by a ribbon. Before the crowns are placed on their heads, the couple kisses, and the best man switches the crowns three times — representing the joining of two souls. (credit:Flickr)
Guest List(60 of158)
A Greek wedding's guest list can be anywhere from 100 to over 300 people. Because these are family affairs, expect several extended family members.
What Type Of Gift Should I Bring?(61 of158)
Modern couples tend to share a home before they get married, so they usually have all the basic house needs covered. For gifts, a fine piece of art or cash ($100 to $200) is acceptable.
Where Are They Held?(62 of158)
In Greece, couples tend to have their weddings at small chapels on cliffs, overlooking beautiful bodies of water in the bride's hometown. In North America, things are a little different. Couples are likely to host their weddings at churches, reception halls or popular city event venues.
What Should I Wear?(63 of158)
Ladies, wear comfortable shoes — especially if you're attending a wedding in Greece. Chapels on islands are often challenging to get to by foot. If you don't have to travel for a Greek wedding, you may also want to stick to comfortable shoes for the dance floor. Comfortable dresses (long, flowy) are fine for women and suits for men.
What's All That Food?(64 of158)
Expect a lot of food. A lot of it. Greek weddings know how to fill their guests up with traditional Greek dishes, from roasted lamb to suckling pig to famous spinach and feta pies. Oh, and there will be booze.
Words You Will Hear(65 of158)
Besides hearing opa (a sound of acclamation), you may also hear na zisoun, which means to live a long life, and H Ora I Kali, which means 'here is to the good times that are coming.'
Wedding Traditions(66 of158)
There are several traditions during Greek weddings, including local musicians serenading the bride to the church, the groom's best friend shaving the groom on his wedding day and the mother of the bride feeding the groom honey and almonds.
How Much Will It Cost?(67 of158)
For guests, a destination wedding can cost anywhere from $1,600 to $2,500 depending on the destination and departure city, This cost covers flights, resort fees, accommodations and food and drinks. (credit: Katya Nova Photography)
Should I Bring A Gift?(68 of158)
If you're attending a destination wedding, you don't have to bring a wedding gift. "Some couples tell the guests that their presence is gift enough but a card is still a nice touch in these cases," says wedding planner Jennifer Borgh of Jennifer Borgh Events. If you still want to give the couple a monetary or boxed gift , give it to them before the wedding or after you come back.
What Should I Wear?(69 of158)
Check the invitation first: Couples should be informing guests what to wear. "Some destination weddings are very casual and some are very formal," Borgh says. If you're unsure, ask. Sometimes, couples have strict one-colour dress codes, so the last thing you want to do is arrive at the hotel with the wrong outfit. (credit:Anita from Billiant Studios)
Where Will The Wedding Be Held?(70 of158)
Most destination weddings are held right at the resort, either on the beach or in a secluded area for private events. But sometimes, be prepared to leave the resort. Borgh says more and more couples are leaving the resort to completely different venues. (credit:Chris and Chantal from Saab Weddings)
How Many People Will Attend?(71 of158)
Destination weddings and reception ceremonies tend to have a small guest lists. Typically, about 40 to 50 people attend, however, Borgh says she has seen larger ones as well. (credit: Katya Nova Photography)
How Should I Book The Flight?(72 of158)
Make sure you book your flight on time. The bride and groom will send out payment deadlines and sometimes ask for deposits. When you are booking a flight, speak to the travel agent associated with the wedding. We all love good flight deals, but you want to avoid last-minute problems. "Unfortunately, for destination weddings, last-minute guests just add last-minute work for the couple trying to get extra décor, extra seats and extra dinners. Some issues that can arise with last-minute guests are: added work for the couple, and hotels and flights being sold out." (credit:Anita from Billiant Studios)
Should The Bride And Groom Pay For Things?(73 of158)
For the most part, yes. Guests can expect some portions of their trip, excursions or little gestures like welcome baskets or customized gifts provided to them by the couple. "Couples should absolutely host one private wedding event. I am completely against having your guests eat at the regular buffet for your wedding night. Guests spent a lot of money to come to your wedding and regardless of your budget, they should be treated to a special meal and event," Borgh says. (credit:Merrick Cousley Photography)
Don't Complain About The Weather(74 of158)
Destination weddings are typically held in hot locations — don't complain about the heat. "Even if the destination they chose would not have been your first choice, there is no need to mention it to the couple or any of the other guests."
Don't Bother The Bride And Groom About Travel Problems(75 of158)
One key etiquette tip for guests at destination weddings is to avoid involving the bride and groom over every tiny travel problem. "If your name was spelled wrong on the e-ticket, then call the travel agent. There is no need to add extra stress to the couple unless absolutely necessary," she says. You can also ask the wedding planner or maid of honour if you have any additional travel issues.
Have Your Files In Order(76 of158)
Just like any trip, keep all of your important travel documents together. Some destinations, like Jamaica for example, require your passport to be valid for six months after your date of departure.
Be Mindful Of Other Guests(77 of158)
Just because you travel a lot, it doesn't mean other guests do the same. Borgh says sometimes, destination weddings are some people's first vacation, which may make them a little overexcited or overwhelmed during the wedding. And because this is a vacation for guests as well, make sure you plan your own personal time after the wedding is complete. (credit:Merrick Cousley Photography)
Tips For The Couple(78 of158)
If you're getting married and you've decided to commit to a destination wedding, make sure you start planning and booking your trip at least a year in advance. Not only does this give enough time for your guests to save money and plan for the wedding, you also have a good shot at booking cheaper flights and hotels, and having all of your guests stay in the same few floors at the resort. (credit:Jennifer Borgh Events )
The Venue(79 of158)
Muslim weddings can be held at mosques, a place of worship for Islam followers. However, many couples also decide to hold the wedding and reception at banquet halls for space and cost.
Words You'll Hear: Nikkah(80 of158)
The nikkah/nikah is arguably the most important ritual during a Muslim wedding. Here, the bride and groom sign a legal contract that symbolizes an Islamic marriage. "The nikkah is a very intimate ceremony and is very short in nature," says Devya R. Pillai, wedding coordinator of Breathtaking Moments: Wedding And Events in Toronto. Sometimes, the couples may choose to do the nikkah in front of a larger audience as well. During this time, the priest or Imam will also recite scriptures from the Qur'an explaining the importance of marriage and the couple's new roles as husband and wife.Couples may also decide to exchange rings at this point, or save it for the reception.
Words You'll Hear: Walima(81 of158)
The walima refers to second portion of an Islamic wedding or the reception. During the walima, you may see performances, speeches and a gathering of family and friends for a feast.
What Should I Wear?(82 of158)
Almost all guests wear traditional clothing, Pillai says. If you can't get your hands on an outfit, wear something modest and long sleeved, if possible, especially at the mosque. When in doubt, speak to a family member.
How Many People Attend?(83 of158)
Muslim weddings can be either small or large, depending on the family. Sometimes, the nikkah is attended by close family members, while receptions or dinners can have more than 100 guests.
Colours You'll See(84 of158)
Muslim weddings can be quite colourful with tones of reds, greens and whites, depending on the bride's choice and cultural background. At some South Asians Muslim weddings and receptions, for example, you'll see the bride wear red or blue tones, and at some Arab Muslim weddings, for example, you may see a bride in a white bridal outfit. (credit:Flickr:diloz)
What Should I Bring For The Couple?(85 of158)
Monetary gifts are generally popular and at some weddings, monetary amounts (depending on how well you know the couple) should end in a $1. This is supposed to signify auspiciousness for the couple's big day. The one thing you don't want to bring is a bottle of wine — or any type of alcohol, for that matter.
Expect A LOT Of Food(86 of158)
During dinner (or lunch, depending on the event you attend), you'll have a wide range of meats and vegetarian dishes to choose from. Because cultures vary from Arab countries to South Asian countries, there really is no standard wedding meal. However, one thing these weddings do have in common is the meat served will be halal and pork is prohibited.
Where Are They Held?(87 of158)
Tamil Hindu weddings are usually held at temples, banquet halls or sometimes, outdoors. Guests attending should expect assigned seating, keeping in mind family (which can be large in number) sit in the front. The guest list on average has over 250 people. Grooms (maapillai) and brides (manamahal) sit around a priest on a stage called a manavarai or mandap. (credit:WikiMedia:)
How Much Time Should I Make In My Schedule?(88 of158)
Typically, a Tamil wedding ritual lasts about an hour and 15 minutes. Wedding ceremonies are followed by lunch or dinner, depending on the time of the wedding.
What Should I Wear?(89 of158)
At Tamil weddings, most women (including their non-Tamil guests) wear traditional sarees, and sometimes have their hair tied in a bun or braided with flowers. Men from the immediate family wear white dhotis (traditional men's garment) and a white shirt with a golden border. Other male guests are required to wear formal wear. For both men and women, gold is very common. If you are attending a Tamil wedding, try avoid wearing black, it is seen as bad luck.
What Should I Bring As A Gift(90 of158)
Most couples prefer monetary gifts — this can range anywhere from $100 to $200 per guest.
What Will I Be Eating?(91 of158)
Most Tamil weddings (held at Hindu temples, for example) serve vegetarian dishes. These meals include everything from rice and curries, vegetarians patties, vegetarian rolls, eggless cake and Tamil sweets made with rice or buttermilk. During the wedding ceremony, drinking is prohibited. If the couple decides to hold a reception, you will find most likely find meaty dishes and booze there.
What Is The Bridal Party Like?(92 of158)
Bridal parties aren't traditionally used at Tamil weddings, but if couples choose to do so, young girls are often the flower girls, and some brides have their closest friends dressed in similar sarees as bridesmaids.
Do Couples Exchange Rings?(93 of158)
Some Tamil couples opt to have their marriage registered on the same day of their Tamil wedding — just because of schedule or timing. Often couples will exchange wedding rings after the wedding ceremony ends. But a custom at all Tamil weddings is the thali/mangalsutre — a gold chain that is tied by the groom around the bride’s neck during the ceremony.
What Do The Bride And Groom Wear?(94 of158)
The bride and groom both wear traditional Tamil clothing. The bride usually wears a kanchipuram saree (often in a red tone, made of silk with thick golden borders) adorned with heavy gold jewelry. The bride usually has her hair braided with extensions and pieces of gold jewelry, The groom either wears a white dhoti, a shirt with a golden border or a sherwarni which is a traditional Indian pant suit. Grooms also wear turbans or thalappas on the day of their weddings. During the wedding — right before the bride ties the knot — it is customary for her to to change into a second saree. This second saree is called the koorai and the first saree (which she enters the venue with) is called a manavarai saree.
But Are All Tamil Weddings Hindu?(95 of158)
Most Tamil weddings you attend will be performed with Hindu rituals, but there are also Christian Tamil weddings that follow Christian rituals (like the white wedding dress).
Tamil Weddings Are Important For The Whole Family(96 of158)
Families play a huge role at Tamil weddings. Sometimes they are even responsible for arranging the bride and groom together. During the wedding ceremony, the parents of the bride and groom also exchange vows to symbolize the union of two families.
Where Are They Held?(97 of158)
For the most part, Jewish weddings are held at synagogues (the Jewish house of worship), hotels and event venues, says wedding planner Naomi Serkin of Naomi Serkin and Associates in Toronto. (credit:Gettystock )
When Do They Happen?(98 of158)
Depending on how religious the bride and groom are, most weddings tend to be on Thursdays or Sundays. This is due to restrictions placed on things like photography, cooking and travelling on Shabbat (the day or rest of worship), which runs from Friday sundown to Saturday sundown. (credit:Gettystock)
How Long Are They?(99 of158)
Like most weddings, Jewish weddings follow the standard ceremony followed by a reception. If you're attending both events (look for details in your invitation), the day altogether can last between five and seven hours. (credit:Gettystock )
What Do I Wear?(100 of158)
The dress code usually comes down to how religious the couple is. If the bride and groom (and their families) tend to be more religious, avoid showing shoulders or wearing anything short and revealing. Something formal should be fine otherwise. In general, avoid wearing white — the bride deserves all the attention. Men are expected to wear kippahs, which are usually provided by the couple at the door. (credit:Gettystock )
What Is That Canopy?(101 of158)
At a Jewish wedding, you will see the couple get married under a canopy called a chuppah (or huppah), symbolizing the home the couple will build together. Usually made with cloth or a sheet with four poles, the four openings represent how open the couple is to family and friends. Some couples use an ancestor's prayer shawl for their canopy, while others ask friends to help create it, like a quilt.
What Should I Bring?(102 of158)
If you're thinking about gifts, think monetary. Depending how well you know the couple, expect to give around $150 to $250. Alternatively, inquire to see if there's a registry.
Eat Eat Eat(103 of158)
Jewish weddings also include a large meal portion of traditional Jewish foods along with meat dishes, desserts and booze. Some weddings will only serve Kosher foods, and therefore meats and dairy may not be served at the same meal. Before the meal portion begins, an older relative will start with a prayer over a large challah bread. This prayer can also be done by the bride and groom.
How Many People Attend?(104 of158)
Serkin says guest lists depend on the couple, but on average she says she will see about 200 to 350 guests per wedding.
Dance The Night Away(105 of158)
When it's time to dance, get ready to move your feet. Along with a band or DJ and dance floor, you will also see the traditional hora, or circle dance, performed where the bride and groom are lifted on chairs.
Some Key Buzzwords(106 of158)
You may hear a few words at the ceremony and reception. Simcha means celebration and mazel tov means good luck. Try it out yourself!
Ceremony Traditions(107 of158)
You may see a few things at the ceremony, again, depending on how religious the couple is. In some ceremonies, the bride begins by walking around the groom seven times. Often, the rabbi and cantor will bless the couple over a cup of wine (which they share) and at the end of the ceremony, the couple kiss and the groom steps on a glass (usually wrapped in a napkin). Here is where you can say mazel tov! (credit:Getty)
Something Blue?(108 of158)
There are several superstitions and traditions Catholic people follow during weddings. For example, you've probably heard the phrase: Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a sixpence (a coin) in your shoe. This refers to the five things the bride must incorporate to her outfit on her big day. All of these actions represent good luck.
Rice Throwing(109 of158)
While some couples and churches don't allow this at ceremonies, Catholic people believe throwing rice after the couple ties the knot represented prosperity. (It's often done outside the church.)
Jumping The Broom(110 of158)
A custom traditionally done by African Americans during slavery, jumping the broom symbolizes the unification of two families into one.
Bridesmaids(111 of158)
At a Catholic wedding, you will also see bridesmaids, often dressed in similar colours. Bridesmaids (looking identical) were used to confuse evil spirits that may descend on the bride.
Where Is It Held?(112 of158)
Often, Catholic weddings are held at the church either the bride, groom or their parents belong to. Traditionally, a Catholic wedding can only be held within the confines of a church, and it is up to the priest to give couples consent to marry outside of it.
Maid Of Honour Is Your Go-To Girl(113 of158)
If you any questions about the wedding, the maid of honour is your go-to gal. For example, gifts for the bride and groom can be tricky, and often at Catholic weddings, the maid of honour has the best insight.
What Do I Wear?(114 of158)
Go for something elegant and modest, and avoid plunging necklines or short hemlines. In some cases, the bride may not want you to wear white — always ask the maid of honour if you're uncertain.
How Long Do Ceremonies Last?(115 of158)
If you're attending a Catholic wedding, ceremonies often last around an hour.
Left-Leaning(116 of158)
At Catholic wedding ceremonies, the bride usually stands on the lefthand side of the groom. In the past, people believed this was in case an intruder came to kidnap the bride, the groom would have his right arm free to reach for his sword and protect her.
What Is The Crowd Like?(117 of158)
A Catholic wedding ceremony can have up to 100 to 150 people, while smaller weddings cap off at around 50. For receptions, which happen after the ceremony, couples can invite anywhere from 50 to 100 friends and family members.
Don't Chit-Chat(118 of158)
During the ceremony, guests seated inside the church should not be talking. If you're wearing a fascinator, sit in the back rows to give people a chance to see the ceremony.
Expect A Lot Of Guests(119 of158)
Italian weddings can have 250 to 350 guests, and sometimes up to 1,000. Because Italian weddings are heavily focused around family, the bride and groom are expected to invite all of their siblings, cousins, great aunts, and great uncles — and their children. "Parents often have a say in the guest list as they most often foot a large portion of the bill," says Lynzie Kent, a Toronto-based wedding and event planner of Love by Lynzie.
Wake Up Early, Folks(120 of158)
If their ceremony is Catholic, it can last anywhere from 60 to 75 minutes, Kent says. Italian ceremonies usually take place in the mornings (around 10 a.m.) to leave a huge gap of time before the reception. If you're planning to go to both events, make sure you're available for the whole day.
Where Do They Take Place?(121 of158)
Traditional couples with a large guest count will have their wedding ceremony take place at their families’ church. Receptions are usually hosted at banquet halls, but Kent says she is seeingmore couples try outdoor or urban venues as well.
What Should I Bring?(122 of158)
Term to know:Boosta Almost all couples expect a cash gift at their wedding. Each wedding will have a boosta box, a box where guests can leave their gifts. "At many Italian weddings, the parents and bridal party form a receiving line as guests enter. At the end of the line, you’ll greet the couple and leave your envelope in the Boosta Box next to them. This is their opportunity to thank you for your gift," Kent says. In terms of how much to give, this can be anywhere from $100 to $250 per person or $250 to $400 per couple to be safe.
There Will Be Food.. Tons Of It(123 of158)
If you're attending an Italian wedding, expect a lot of food. And we mean a lot. Italian weddings usually serve antipasto, seafood, espresso, pasta and a meat course during the reception. Traditional Italian sweets are also served, along with pastries, candy, and wedding cake.
What Should I Wear?(124 of158)
Most weddings tend to be black-tie affairs. As a guest, it is considered rude to wear white and slightly taboo to wear all black, Kent says. However, Kent says the latter is changing and more female guests are coming to weddings dressed in all black.
The Groom Is Such A Romantic(125 of158)
Here's a cool tradition: On the night before the wedding, the groom must deliver flowers to his fiancée's house. These flowers can be used as the bride's bouquet, and represent the last gift she receives as a "single" person. "Last fall, one of my grooms surprised his bride by singing a traditional Italian song to her with guitar, and then giving her the flowers," Kent says.
You Won't Leave Empty-Handed(126 of158)
Term to know:BombonieresBombonieres, or favours, are always given at Italian weddings. Traditionally, these bags are filled with at lease five (a lucky number) pieces of confetti (white candy-coated almonds). These days, couples give out wrapped cookies, Christmas tree ornaments, or give a donation to charity.
Expect A Party, And A Huge Bridal Party(127 of158)
Traditionally, Italian receptions go out with a bang. Kent says in ancient Roman law, it’s said there needed to be at least 10 witnesses at a wedding. For this reason, many Italian brides and grooms have several bridesmaids and groomsmen. "The witnesses would all dress very similar to the bride and groom to ward off and confuse evil spirits who could curse the happiness of the bride and groom," she adds.
The Invitation(128 of158)
Terms to know:pooja/puja Sometimes, families send out two separate invitations (one for the groom's side of the family and one for the bride's side). The invitation is basically the road map for the wedding. Since Hindu weddings can take up three to five days of events, the invitation has times and locations of every event you're invited to. A lot of the time, guests may only be invited to a few events — things like the puja (prayer) and henna party are usually for close family and friends.
The Venue(129 of158)
Term to know:Mandir/mandhir, mandapTypically, Hindu weddings are held at banquet halls or Hindu temples (mandirs). At both venues, seats are usually set up facing the main stage with the mandap — a gazebo made with four pillars decorated with flowers and colourful drapes. At some temples, however, guests may be expected to sit on the floor. At all temples, shoes are not allowed to be worn during the ceremony.
Seating(130 of158)
If you see a few seats in the front that are empty, don't approach them. The first few rows of the ceremony are usually saved for immediate family members and the bridal party. Often, you won't see a "reserved" sign. Other times, friends and family of the bride sit on one side, while the groom's family and friends sit on the opposite end.
So What Do I Wear?(131 of158)
Most guests attend weddings in traditional Indian sarees and suits. If you're wearing a dress, choose something conservative. In terms of colours, avoid black, white and red. The first two colours have negative meanings in Hindu culture (death), and red is often worn by the bride.
Gifts(132 of158)
Most couples expect monetary gifts. When you get to the venue, you'll see a family member with a money box. If you don't, you can give your card and money (always add an extra dollar for good luck, so $101, $201, etc.), directly to the bride and groom during picture time.
During The Ceremony(133 of158)
Terms to know:SaptapadiOnce the prayers and rituals begin, it is best to refrain from talking loudly or eating in your seat. The ceremony itself has several parts that differ depending on the country you're from, but most commonly, couples take seven steps around the holy fire, called the saptapadi. Each step represents a promise and vow.
Ceremony Details(134 of158)
Terms to know:Agni, pandit jiSpeaking of the holy fire, this is called an agni. Not only does the couple walk around it, but it is also used for several other religious rituals. During the wedding, the priest (the pandit ji) ensures the flame doesn't go out.
There's More Than Just A Ring(135 of158)
Terms to know: Red sindoor, mangal sutraBesides exchanging wedding rings (which is actually a Western tradition), the bride usually gets a line of red powder on the part of her hair and a black and gold bridal necklace called the mangal sutra. These two gifts from the groom basically symbolize a woman's commitment to her partner.
Sights And Sounds(136 of158)
You will see a lot of gold jewelry, red clothing pieces and dark maroon henna. Brides usually decorate their arms and legs the night before the wedding, and often each woman's hand or leg tells a love story. During the ceremony, you will also smell and see many incense sticks.
When The Ceremony Ends(137 of158)
Once the ceremony is over, families will go up and give their blessings to the newlyweds and take pictures. This can take a long time — sometimes guests lists can include 1,000 people. If you come with a group of friends or with your family, make sure you all go up at the same time.
Eating In A Thali(138 of158)
Term to know:ThaliAt some Hindu weddings (especially at the temple), expect to have lunch or dinner in a steel plate called a thali. Food at Hindu weddings is almost always vegetarian and includes a variety of salads, curries, rice and roti. Alcohol is also not permitted. Pro tip: Taste before you take, food tends to be spicy.
The Party(139 of158)
Hindu weddings are followed by huge buffet feast and dance party at the reception. This is when the bride and groom finally get to wind down after a week of rituals and events. Let loose, get some booze and dance the night away with the newlyweds!
Make Sure You Go Hungry(140 of158)
Traditional Chinese weddings are held at Chinese restaurants or banquet halls, decorated in red and gold for good luck. For dinner, Chinese banquet meals have about 10 or 12 courses. As a guest, make sure you come hungry. Meals are typically eaten within the course of three hours, interspersed with activities and games for the bride, groom and guests. (credit:Gettystock)
Meaning Behind Your Meals(141 of158)
Don't be shy to talk to other people or servers at your table. If you're sitting with the bride and groom's family members or friends, ask about the significance of dishes being eaten. Each dish during the 10 to 12-part course represents something important for the couple. For example, the word for "fish" is a homonym for riches or abundance, and is usually served whole with the head and tail, symbolizing a good start and finish to the year. Long noodles are symbolic of longevity, so they usually appear near the end of the meal. Lobster, shark fin soup (or a replica), chicken and a lot of seafood, for example, are common dishes found in traditional Chinese wedding dinners. (credit:Gettystock)
Toast With The Happy Couple(142 of158)
During dinner, the bride and groom will come up to each table to toast guests as a sign of respect for coming to their celebration. When they approach your table, make sure you stand up with your glass and give them one unified table toast in celebration. Cheers! (credit:Getty Stock)
Expect A Lot Of Meat(143 of158)
Besides a variety of seafood and chicken dishes, a full roast suckling pig — feet, head and all — is a common sight and dish during cocktail hour. If you're a vegetarian or vegan, be polite and don't stare. You can easily offend family members by looking grossed out. And if you're a meat eater who has never eaten it, just try it — suckling pig is delicious. (credit:farm7.staticflickr.com)
Don't Be Shy About Cutlery(144 of158)
It is common and customary to lift your bowl and use chopsticks to push rice or noodles into your mouth at the dinner table. If you're not comfortable using chopsticks, ask your server for a fork and spoon.
Dress Code Matters(145 of158)
Don't wear red or white at a Chinese wedding — you don't want to steal the bride's thunder or bring bad luck. Brides often change into red dresses in the evening portion of the wedding, while white symbolizes death and mourning. (credit:Gettystock)
You Can Take Food Home(146 of158)
If you stuff your face with a delicious meal and still want some to go, it's not considered rude to ask for containers for leftovers. In fact, asking for leftovers is considered a sign of appreciation during a Chinese wedding.
The Number 8 Is Auspicious(147 of158)
While some weddings require boxed gifts for the couple, cash gifts are customary in Chinese weddings. Simply place the cash or cheque into a nice card or red envelope (a hong bao) and leave it in a guest box upon your arrival. The amount you give is entirely up to you, however it is best to avoid the number four, which is associated with death. Alternatively, anything with the number eight is auspicious because it symbolizes fortune.
The Groom Enters With A Bang(148 of158)
Term to know:The BaraatThe Baraat is the groom’s procession: A portion of singing and dancing that happens right before the wedding ceremony. At this time, the groom — often decked out in gold and sometimes in a luxury car or on a horse — is followed by his closest friends and family. (credit:Maharani Weddings )
The Milni(149 of158)
Term to know:The MilniThe milni is the official meeting of both families. Key male family members from both sides exchange garlands and greet each other, symbolizing the acceptance of two families into one. (credit:Pinterest)
Ceremony Etiquette(150 of158)
Term to know:GurdwaraBefore you enter the main hall of the Gurdwara (a Sikh place of worship), take off your shoes.
During The Ceremony(151 of158)
When you're at the wedding ceremony, cover your head with a head scarf if you're a woman, or a bandana if you're a man. The Gurdwara or the couples' family will provide you with head coverings.. Also, if you're not wearing an Indian suit or saree, dress conservatively — avoid low-cut tops or short skirts and dresses.
Things You Will See(152 of158)
Term to know:Guru Granth SahibYou may see some of the guests walk up to the front of the hall and bow their heads in front of the Guru Granth Sahib, a religious text of holy scriptures. For non-Sikh guests, this is not mandatory.
Where Should I Sit?(153 of158)
Men and women are often seated on opposite sides of the hall. Close family members or the bridal party make up the first few rows.
How Will I Sit?(154 of158)
At a Sikh wedding ceremony, guests are expected to sit on the floor. You can sit comfortably with your legs crossed but do not point your feet in the direction of the holy scriptures book located in the front.
During The Ceremony(155 of158)
A Sikh wedding ceremony usually last 45 minutes and wraps up before noon. During this time, guests should not be chit-chatting or talking in the hall.
Expect A Dessert At The End(156 of158)
Term to know:kara parshadAt the end of the ceremony, a sweet pudding called kara parshad is passed around to all of the guests. This dessert is made with whole wheat flour, butter and sugar. You can learn how to make your own here.
After The Ceremony(157 of158)
After the ceremony is complete and the bride and the groom are officially married, guests are invited to congratulate the couple and take pictures.
Be Ready For A Party(158 of158)
Term to know:Bhangra Sikh weddings are all about close-knit communities and having fun. Everyone eats, drinks and dances to bhangra (a genre of Punjabi music) together. Sikh weddings are also very large and average around 600 to 1,000 guests.