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living together before marriage

It might be a while before you know they're ~The One~
Marriage vs. Cohabitation – how's that for an incendiary blog title? It's along the lines of Working Mom vs. Stay-At-Home
The moral of the story: do what feels right to you!
I'm not personally a proponent of cohabitation before marriage. If you asked for my advice, I'd tell you not to. There's plenty of empirical research out there to suggest that it might not be the greatest idea. But you don't need to reduce men to sex-starved lunatics (or women to desperate shells who will whither and die if they don't get a ring) to get your point across.
In her article titled "Don't Live With Your Boyfriend If You Want To Get Married," Debra Macleod provides her reasons for why she thinks couples should not make the cohabitation commitment before the man decides to "put a ring on it." Macleod refers to herself as a "relationship expert." She may want to reconsider that title.
Over the past decade or so, I've found there are a few common pitfalls that women who want to get married inadvertently fall into, and which decrease their chances of getting married while they're still young enough to walk down the aisle without stopping for breath. One of these pitfalls is living together before marriage.