Every person was once a child including you. Many people say the aged need more attention than the younger generation but my stand is, the young have more worries and also need great amount of attention.
When i was a teenager, I always had the belief that no one understood me. This caused me pain and worry day in, day out. It took the first twenty years of my life to have some reasonable level of understanding with my parents. For the first twenty years of my life, living joyfully wasn’t so much of a reality because I did not feel loved and everything I had to do seemed like a struggle.
I believe this situation is not peculiar to me. You have your story too to share and you are not alone. Almost every child or teenager faces the struggle within to feel loved and accepted. Not just to be given financial support but more importantly, to be understood.
Life has a whole lot to offer no matter the angle we stare at it from. If you stare at life from the angle of being hated you will have little or no understanding of love. If you stare at life from the angle of being abused, you will have little or no self-esteem. You will feel broken and insignificant.
When you stare at life from the angle of being misunderstood, you end up as an introvert, living to yourself and your thoughts. Your thoughts become your world and your reality.
None of us can deny the fact that at some point in our lives we needed someone to fill a gap we had. The gap that distanced us from being normal and living normally. The gap of needing a listening ear, a caring heart, a helping hand and a loving arm.
Many times we have raised our hopes and believe that the gap inside of us can be filled. We hoped that someone from anywhere whatsoever would redeem us from the plague we found ourselves.
I have lived for more than twenty years and I have learned that going through life with the need to be listened too and understood is no easy fit. Going through life to be loved and cared for isn’t easy either. Going through life feeling insecure is painful and devastating.
If this has been your experience, you will be able to connect to this on a deeper level.
My point is everyone have had their share of struggle and desire for a helping hand and a helping heart.
Nonetheless, as we advance in age, somehow, we get stronger and overcome the things that once held us down. We move forward with enthusiasm and begin to take hold of life head-on.
The sad part of our victory is, we forget to be the person we once needed.
Whatever we went through in life proves that someone out there today is fighting a similar battle like the one we once fought. They are struggling to find treasure in obscure situations.
What this mean for us is, we have a role to play in giving to others what we may not have received, so that we can help them overcome what broke us. You have to be the person that cares, the person that listens, the person that understands, the person that loves.
You have to be the hand that builds and not destroy, the heart that gives and not only take. You have to fill someone’s gap.
The world will get better if you and I decide not to go through life without making a difference. We can make a difference by being the person we once needed.
Yes, we may not have had what we needed or prayed for but we can be an answer to someone else prayer.
You can be the hope of someone, you can be a life saver for someone, you can be someone’s light in dark moments. Shape your life and become a life changer.
Don’t grow old neglecting the role you prayed others would have played when you were younger. There is hidden treasure in your past.
... For my younger friends, learn and never forget what you are missing from older people. The love, the care, patience to listen to you, wisdom to guide you in love and calmness and the heart to understand your spoken and unspoken words.
Don’t remember their faults in order to hate them rather remember their faults so when you are much older you can be the person you once needed to others.
For those who failed to bridge the gap for you, love them nonetheless and make your experience a life lesson.
Turn the world to your classroom and when you become a teacher in this classroom, never forget to teach the lessons you wished for at an early age.
‘Life is a circle’ a wise man says. Touch a life today and you will be leaving a mark in the world. To do this, ‘be the person you once needed’.