When my boyfriend is quiet, my first instinct is to ask, "what's wrong?" I guess that's the 'mother-side' of me trying to make him and the situation better. I hate to see him hurting, sad, angry or upset, so I try to do everything in my power to help him. But, you see, some guys handle things in different ways. While some guys don't care if you coddle them, others will want to be alone. And, guess what? My boyfriend is one of them.
I've been living with my boyfriend for 4 months now and it's been great! I love coming home to him; I love hanging out with him; I love doing activities together and overall, I just love being with him. But, there's one thing that really gets me going. It's when my boyfriend is silent, but won't tell me what's wrong. He tells me he doesn't feel like talking and I insist on talking because well, maybe that way I can make the situation slightly better. The joke is actually on me because he would rather be left alone.
So, why the heck do guys do this? As girls, we usually spill out our emotions and tell you what's wrong, but guys keep it inside and stay cranky. I mean, I know some girls expect for their guy to know exactly what the issue is, but that's not me. If I have a problem, I'll usually tell him why I'm acting a certain way.
I was speaking with another woman at work who described the same thing with her hubby.
Therefore, I just assumed its men in general. Most of the time, I respect his wishes and just stay away, but I won't lie, it eats at me. After a while instead of getting pissed off at him, I walk away and do something else. Sorry ladies, but talking to your guy about the situation doesn't really do any good. Instead, I would leave him alone and let him stir. I wouldn't keep persistently asking him what's wrong because I've learned that won't get you anywhere. Try to stay calm, cool and collected and don't overheat because he doesn't want to talk. You must learn that a relationship takes hard work and situations like this may come up quite often. The key is knowing and learning how to handle it.