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We’re in the midst of the holiday season—mistletoe, drinking, and invitations to parties that frankly some of us would rather avoid. Sure, the thought of going solo to a holiday soiree’ may be cause for panic, but it provides the best opportunity to meet new people and find yourself a date.
I know what you are thinking, who wants to go to a party alone, especially during the holidays? You walk in the front door of an acquaintance’s house party, and 15 people you’ve never met turn to see who you are. Wow. What to say? What to do? And worst of all, these parties are often filled with smug couples, a constant reminder of what we are so-called lacking. And let’s not forget the “why are you still single?” questions. By the way, the answer is much easier than you think.. “I just haven’t met the right person yet” works every time.
There’s no doubt you could meet more people, network, make friends, and more if you could be more social at parties. But the first obstacle is getting yourself to go, right? If you don’t enjoy going to social events like parties, then how can you ever expect to do well there? Well, unfortunately, I believe this is a case of the chicken or the egg.
Because the way you begin to enjoy social events more is by being more effective in them. Here are my top five strategies on how to enjoy going to a party where you virtually know no one, especially if you are not sure how to start a conversation.
1. Be prepared: Don't go into a party blind, especially if it's a networking event. You'll want to have relevant conversation topics ready, as well as information about the party itself. It'll give you something to talk about, and also save you from any awkward pauses when you're asked your opinion on the latest news headlines.
2. Help the host:. Offer to help the host, they almost always need a little last minute help. Then you have a job to do which distracts your nerves and gives you an excuse to make conversation with guests as they arrive.
3. Use humor: Here is the perfect ice breaker to show off your wittiness and charm. Just say “I’ll be honest, the only person I know here is the bartender and I just met him two minutes ago. Mind if I introduce myself?” Humor is a good method to put another guest at ease and jump-start a lighthearted conversation .
4. Find things in common: Conversations flow around common experiences, so go ahead bring up the one thing you know you both have in common: What's going on around you. Asking about the party, the group discussion, or even the restaurants around the area will give you both a chance to contribute to the conversation.
5. Just have fun: A party is a place people go to do that. In these types of social events, people are in the mindset of “let’s have fun.” A great question to ask would be “what do you do for fun when you are not working?” Asking personal questions about people's activities outside of work can help solidify a connection,
An invitation is an inclusion — it means your host thinks you will be a valuable addition to her gathering. Allow yourself to feel flattered . Everyone has positive qualities and attributes; focus on yours and allow them to build your own self-assurance. In short, hitting the scene alone can be invigorating and exciting. You never know whose path you will cross, what the night will bring and what new friends are just around the corner. Lastly, if you are attached, be sure to reach out to your single friends and include them in your festivities. Remember friends don’t let friends be alone during the holidays!
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