The Confidence that Grows.

Finding the confidence you need to grow isn't always easy. There are a lot of things that get in the way. I have found that most people lack the necessary confidence to be able to go out into the world and get what they need and want. It's not entirely your fault, at least it hasn't been up to now. You see, the system is stacked against you. You are about to take the blue pill. If ignorance is your bliss, stop reading this because after I show you the truth, you will no longer be able to say you didn't know. There are three reasons that this happens.

1. Knowledge isn't power, you are taught that your whole life by people who make a living teaching you knowledge. Everyone knows that cigarettes cause cancer yet 443,000 people still die from cigarette smoking each year. This is because knowing is only half the battle, without the action behind the knowledge the results are the same. in 13 years of schooling I never recall having a single class in execution. It was always about acquiring knowledge, rather than using it.

2. Color in the lines. Our whole lives we are taught to follow rules, follow directions, and do as we are told. Guidance is great but it can become an inaction enabler. At a certain point we need to know right from wrong then be allowed to learn through experience. You have probably noticed that more and more people in their 20's are still living at home and unable or unmotivated to fend for themselves in the real world. This dependency is not limited to millennials or children. There are grown ups who have successful careers and their own families that still lack confidence.

3. Indecision is a decision within itself. I have seen so many people struggle with even the simplest of decisions. People will pour over a menu asking everyone what they are having because they are so fearful of getting the wrong thing that they will take every step to insure the least amount of failure. When we fail to be decisive we are allowing ourselves to live in fear rather than excellence. Time is your most valuable asset and when we waste it on the unimportant, we will never be able to get to what's important let alone make a decision about it. You see confidence is not something you are born with, it's a skill that some develop and some do not. For those of you that wish to become more, apply yourself and try, there is no shame in failure, only in never trying. Nate

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