You see an attractive man when you're out and about and you'd like to get him to notice you. But what do you do?
Men need encouragement to know it's safe to approach you. Here are five tips certain to let him know you're interested in him.
1. Smile at a man you're attracted to and make eye contact with him for five seconds.
Yes, FIVE FULL SECONDS. It will seem like an eternity but it's a signal to him that you're interested.
2. Get his attention by asking him a question.
Men are hard-wired to help women. By asking him a question, you're tapping into his best male instincts.
Here are examples of questions you can ask to get the dialogue going between the two of you...
You're at a happy hour with a friend and a man sits next to you and orders red wine. Ask him which one it is and if he likes it. Then you can always talk about other wines from there to keep the conversation going.
You're at Starbucks. Ask if the chair next to a nice looking man is taken. Or if you're in line, ask what his favorite coffee is.
You're at a dog park. Ask about his dog's veterinarian and if he'd recommend him or her for your puppy.
3. Listen to what a man is really saying to you.
Men do speak another language that women don't necessarily hear or understand.
My friend, Heidi, was sitting at a bar having dinner with her friend.
They struck up a conversation with a man who sat next to them.
It was her friend who asked the question, "What salad is that?" and the conversation between the three of them took off.
When her friend left, Heidi and this attractive man from out of town continued talking.
Over and over again, he shared with her that he wasn't locked into where he lived and that he'd seriously dated women from cities other than the one he lived in.
She totally missed his male language hint for, "Are you interested in dating me even though I live out of town?" ultimately losing out on an opportunity to date a man she was attracted to.
4. Drop your handkerchief.
To this day, one of my favorite television shows is I Love Lucy.
In the 1950s, it was common knowledge that a woman would drop her handkerchief in front of a man to let him know she was interested in him.
Lucy, dressed in a disguise, was pretending to be another woman. She wanted to see if Ricky would flirt with her.
So she dropped her handkerchief and said, "Pardon me," fully expecting him to pick it up for her.
Both understood this was a sign she was interested in him and he could approach her if the attraction was mutual.
You can do the same thing with men today.
Instead of using a handkerchief, try dropping your phone if it won't shatter or a folder or package you might be carrying.
Who knows what it might lead to!
5. Know your role.
Your job is to let him know you're interested in having him approach you.
His job is to ask you out if he's interested in you.
If he's not, it doesn't mean he's personally rejecting you. He might be married, have a girlfriend or you might not be his type.
Just move on ... There are plenty of other men out there.
Chalk the experience up as an opportunity to practice your flirting skills.
These five tips will give you the opportunity to interact with a lot of men. And you never know, one just might turn out to be your Mr. Right.
Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50's dating. She's the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your free report, "5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man," visit www.findaqualityman.com.
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