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Dear Abby on Finding Respite as a Caregiver

Author Jeane Phillips, the daughter of the original advice columnist Dear Abby poses for a photo in Los Angeles, Friday, Oct.
Author Jeane Phillips, the daughter of the original advice columnist Dear Abby poses for a photo in Los Angeles, Friday, Oct. 5, 2007. Dear Abby is publicly declaring her support for same-sex marriage next week in Washington, DC. She has hinted at this in past columns, but plans to step it up in the future. (AP Photo/Damian Dovarganes)

DEAR ABBY: How can I convince my aging, sick sister-in-law that her feeble husband's care is too much for her at this point? She can barely care for herself, yet she must help him eat, get out of chairs -- everything short of chew his food for him. I have tried telling her she deserves respite care of some kind, to no avail.

Have you any ideas how I can convince her she is literally killing herself and deserves some assistance? Their three daughters are no help at all to them. They turn a blind eye from their parents' situation. -- RELATIVE WHO CARES IN OHIO

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