Earlier today I sat on a phone call with my girlfriend, which made me want to bang my head against the wall. I love her, I really do. Yet it prompted me to want to tell any lady that might be swimmingly sailing down the River of Denial (or making more excuses to tell herself) -- yes, we've all done it before at some point.
The truth: No matter HOW BUSY a man is, if he's TRULY interested in you, he'll call you and plan a next date shortly thereafter.
"Not necessarily!" you exclaim. "He's really busy, and is working on a huge finance deal right now! Also, I even think he mentioned he has family coming into town this weekend!"
Put your paddles down ladies. Let's say he travels to Asia or Dubai every other week. Let's just say. Even if he has to find out what day you're available three weeks out from today when he returns from travel, he'll ask you what day that would be, and tell you to plan on it.
He doesn't want you to forget him, stays in touch every few days or so via text or other means and does NOT want some other dude swooping in on what he wants to see first if it works for him -- because he's truly interested in you.
Yes, I can hear more excuses coming from some of the ladies. The answer is NO. No, it doesn't matter what undeniable chemistry you claim 'know that exists' between each other despite the stretch of time that goes by before you hear from him; or that 'intense connection' both of you feel the times when you ARE in fact together; nor the bond you think you have despite the periods of radio silence and weeks in between your dates.
What part of week-long crickets says to you, "I'm into you"?
FACT. MEN GO AFTER WHAT THEY WANT. When it's important to a guy, NOTHING STANDS IN THE WAY.
Busy? Meh. Minor detail. He will MAKE time. And for the time during in between? You better bet he makes sure to stay connected every few days -- even with a brief 'hi how's your day going?' and chit chat texts until he is able to see her again. And for him, the sooner the better.
Notice key words here: "when it's important to a guy."
My message to my girlfriend: I love you, don't sit around waiting. Life is too short, go get yours -- with the right guy.
For now anyway, and for reasons unknown or that should even matter, he's simply just not that into you.