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Questions to Ask During Difficult Moments

One way to energize and take great care yourself as you live through a heartbreaking experience, is to resist the human urge to ask why, and instead, ask what and how.
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One way to energize and take great care yourself as you live through a heartbreaking experience, is to resist the human urge to ask why, and instead, ask what and how.

Why eventually morphs into why me which disempowers and depletes us of the very thing we need to heal and keep moving forward: loving energy.

Instead, even amidst the sadness, confusion or shock which we also want to allow in (feel the feelings to eventually move past them), asking ourselves, "Today, and in this very next moment, how can I use this experience as a tool to grow?" is a curious, empowering and loving exercise.

Each day, your answer will evolve with greater clarity.

Commit to yourself, to life, to an aliveness, and continue asking, and each day, you will evolve with greater clarity.

It's what you're here to do.

The job you're sitting at or running from one meeting to the next today isn't your job, growing emotionally and spiritually is your job.

The growth you'll experience as you consistently ask what and how promises a peace that sticks around, longer and longer each time.

It's the kind of peace or happiness we search for outside of ourselves all the time. The kind we demand from our romantic relationships, feel in a glass of wine, expect from our next vacation, or plan on feeling from a new car or tomorrow's workout.

Lasting contentment, however, comes from one place: within. The quicker we accept this as truth, the sooner healing and our own inner romance, also one that sticks around, can begin.

The medicine always lies within.

Our continued growth and the eventual peace felt comes as much from asking better questions as it does from inviting in the brutally honest answers that also want to come, again, all for our benefit.

This Q&A, the most important you'll likely ever attend, brings you answers that are the soulful seeds to the only thing we have control over: who we are or choose to be, how much we consciously choose growth over why me and, overall, what we think about what happens around us, every day.

Ask yourself, what about me, my habits, the way I communicate (or don't communicate), the way I love myself or others (or don't love myself or others), will I choose to change and give wings to today, and in this next moment?

How can my actions today better match who I say I am? How can they best match the greatest vision I have for my life?

You can decide for what happens in life to happen for you, not to you.

This hasn't happened to you.

The good stuff, the joy and ease, can and does help us grow and evolve, however, it's that which we resist, the stuff that makes us retreat, that breaks our heart or that we don't fully understand that are our greatest teachers and our greatest tools for growth.

Choose all that happens or doesn't happen today to be a tool. See it as the wings to your greatest growth.