As partners, you likely turned to each other for support on everything, but that's probably no longer appropriate.

The family dinner that's most important in our house is not the typical weeknight meal where my son, Javier, mumbles something about his day after an onslaught of questions from me. The one we treasure is the monthly meal we share with my ex-husband, Ed, who lives in another state.

When you are going through a divorce, you probably could never think of being friends with your ex. If you have children together, you need to both think about what's best for them.

My ex-wife Arlene and I have a very good relationship. It is a much better relationship than the one we would have had if we had actually stayed married. I hope my kids can appreciate that fact.