1. They admit their flaws.
No one is perfect. As much as we hear this trite nugget, a lot of us do not take it to heart. (Nudge, nudge.)
Self-assured women not only admit their imperfections, they applaud them. They know where their strengths lie, where they can improve and when to get the heck outta dodge and let others take the lead. Trying to be perfect at everything is inefficient, and confident women ain't got no time for that. They love themselves for who they are -- and for who they're not.
2. They say no.
Now, some people may think this practice is betchy (the PC version of b*tchy), but in reality, it's pretty respectful. Confident women don't overcommit and they don't make false promises. They just say no. Why? Because they'd rather state the truth and decline rather than tell a white lie and then flake out later. And, they don't have time for everything. No one does. The difference is, burnout simply isn't on a confident woman's agenda, so she makes sure to commit to things she'll actually enjoy instead of piling every little thing onto her calendar for the sake of other people. Truth bomb.
FYI: Confident women do RSVP, because, well, not doing so would actually be betchy.
3. They listen.
While self-assured women trust their own judgment, they are also secure enough to listen to others' opinions. They won't necessarily like what they hear all the time, but they don't throw a tantrum just because their boss didn't like their PowerPoint. They get that criticism should be taken as constructive, and that listening to others' answers is a good way to get their question resolved. Le duh.
To sum this up Twitter-style: Listening >Talking #blessed
4. They don't conform.
Confident women don't wear, say, listen to, do, or become anything they don't believe in, because they aren't walking cookie cutters. They left the desire to fit in back with their battery-deprived Tamagotchi the second they realized they were friends with a whiney Etch A Sketch. Confident women don't mirror others to find what makes them happy -- they are brave enough to look within.
5. They're open to love.
Regardless of how brutal or shameful one's romantic past may be, the opportunity for love is hardly off the table. A failed relationship is an opportunity. These women reflect on why it didn't survive (he was stupid), work to better their own unfavorable behaviors (OK, maybe I told him he was stupid a lot), and then search for a more compatible partner (one who isn't stupid).
Horribly lame jokes aside, confident women don't let their past hold them back. They know they are worthy of a great relationship, strong enough to survive if it doesn't work out and fabulous enough to weather the crappy outcomes.
6. They ask for help.
So important. These women know trying to accomplish everything alone is virtually impossible. Self-assured women don't feel threatened or belittled by seeking help from coaches or counselors. Just like a CEO has an entire team to assist with daily functions, confident women have a support group ready to go.
Mental tune-ups are their soy vanilla lattes. They value a third party bringing out the best in them. Plus, they have someone to blab to about that epic slip-up with you-know-what at the you-know-where and stuff got real.
Sounds intense, girl. Blab to counselors, not to coworkers.
7. They own their feelings.
No matter what the circumstance is, confident women strive to understand their emotions AND own up to them. There's no hide and seek happening with their jealousy -- they let it all out.
Self-assured women take the opportunity to express themselves without blaming others, and confirm that they are understood. Then, they return the favor by listening to the other side. And then, they ride off into the sunset with their homies and get ice cream, because it's all good now.
8. They release guilt
Guilt is supposed to be a temporary emotion. It pushes us to understand our actions, act to correct the mistake and apologize. But that's it. Guilt is not meant to spam our emotional foundation. Confident women listen to their guilt, figure out how to right their wrong and then they release it. Wam, bam, thank you, spam.
9. They support others.
Self-assured women love watching their friends soar. Cheering on others' businesses, relationships and successes does not impede on any of our own accomplishments; it highlights them!
ALL of you have heard the phrase, "guilty by association," right? Yeah, your moms probably mentioned that to you a few times in high school, ya little troublemaker. So, use it to your advantage! A killer social network only makes mommy proud.
Want to be confident?
Then always keep in mind that confidence can grow. Remember what we talked about in #6? Good. That's the key to becoming better in this tricky department. If you're looking for more information, you can always come say hi to me and my frands here!
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