So many of my patients, prior to seeing me, have a hard time getting started with projects and getting things done. They do everything but what they need to be doing. They go shopping instead of cleaning their house. They socialize instead of finishing a work project, or they call friends instead of looking for a new job. They essentially avoid that which they deem to be uncomfortable. It's an adaptive response to stress, anxiety, and fear. The problem with this tactic is, by putting off an important task, it ultimately leads to more stress, more anxiety, and greater fear. This procrastination can lead to feelings of guilt, inadequacy, and depression -- all of which can kill motivation and perpetuate the unproductive cycle. Poor time management, feeling overwhelmed, unrealistic standards or plain laziness are just a few possible reasons for procrastination.
Here's How to Kick It in the Butt:
- Understand your motivation. Are you the type of person motivated towards things that are positive? For example, you work really hard knowing there's a bonus at the end of the quarter. Or are you a slacker sitting on your rear until your boss comes around and threatens to fire you, only then making your move to avoid the negative?
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