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Why We Really Need Relationships in Life

Relationships show us how to love and be love as well as who we want to be in life and who we don't. Having serious trusting relationships allows us to truly be our true selves.
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Relationships are imperative for many different reasons such as increasing our emotional well being, creating stability, learning how to be a good friend or mate, having someone to count on and trust in times of need and someone to vent to when we face challenges, and friends and mates take away loneliness and make us feel included. Each of our relationships elicit different responses in ourselves that help us to grow and learn about ourselves. Relationships often times are the glue that holds us together during times of stressful situations and when we face life difficulties. Without relationships we would have a deadened spirit and a lack of connection to our true selves!

Men and women need relationships in different capacities and for different reasons. We tend to gravitate to others like ourselves because we share relatable careers, places we frequent, fun activities and hobbies, so that makes relationships a must in order to have people that make us better. However, men and women differ in how we formulate lasting bonds with others. Women are much more emotionally connected and invested and rely on girlfriends or a mate for things like parental advice, romantic gratification, someone to help with our children's development and cognitive capabilities and learning how to be better at life and in a relationship and learn from experiences. Men don't have to be emotionally attached to receive sexual pleasure from other women but closeness does matter to them as well as it does to women Men are not nearly as emotionally invested when they engage in certain activities like going to the gym or watching sporting events together. Matter of fact, most men show up, do the planned activity and then leave without ever thinking about what went wrong, if there were mixed words or if the other person is ok. Men are easier at compartmentalizing their feeling in relationships and women tend to hold grudges, take longer dealing with emotional baggage and allow issues to linger longer. Men move on faster in relationships, making it easier on themselves to be connected with the opposite sex and those of the same much faster than women. Relationships usually are our mirrors showing us ways we need to change and become better mates and friends. Also, our friends and the people we have long term relationships with allow us to be vulnerable and ask for help when we normally wouldn't with complete strangers. When in relationships often times we meet new people through the people we are already connected with and grow our circles! It is fun to have diversified life experiences, people to truly learn who they are and to teach them interesting new information and go on new adventures together!

Relationships show us how to love and be love as well as who we want to be in life and who we don't. Having serious trusting relationships allows us to truly be our true selves. We must be open to meeting new people and having spiritual connections will help us grow our faith and be able to inspire others to open us to new possibilities. Just be you and the right people will be in your life for the right reasons! Always be authentically you and other will love the real you!!