mother in laws

When your well-meaning comments meet with snippy replies, how do you deal with your daughter-in-law?
There's a reason these ladies are former mothers-in-law.
First of all, everyone involved is an adult. This makes them peers. No longer is the parent-child dynamic in play... or at least, it shouldn't be. Adults are presumed to be independent, capable of decision-making, and no longer in need of active, hands-on parenting.
My problem is my daughter. I raised her as a single parent along with my son. I gave them a decent life and have a good relationship with my son as I did with my daughter until about 12 years ago.
As a mother, I cannot imagine that anyone could love my children as much or as unconditionally as I love them.
Somewhere, personalizing a wedding got confused with slapping a monogram on anything that was markable, and replicating every cute idea seen around the blogosphere.
At some point, it also occurred to me: As the mother of two boys, it's possible that I could someday have two daughters-in-law. And it's very possible (read: guaranteed) that I will occasionally say and do the wrong things.
Remember, your relationship with your mother-in-law is one that is going to last a long, long time. The more you can do to make it blossom, the better! (
My mother, unfortunately, didn't live long enough to be a mother-in-law to my husband as she died when we were dating. She