mother in laws
When your well-meaning comments meet with snippy replies, how do you deal with your daughter-in-law?
Boundaries, ladies, boundaries.
There's a reason these ladies are former mothers-in-law.
First of all, everyone involved is an adult. This makes them peers. No longer is the parent-child dynamic in play... or at least, it shouldn't be. Adults are presumed to be independent, capable of decision-making, and no longer in need of active, hands-on parenting.
My problem is my daughter. I raised her as a single parent along with my son. I gave them a decent life and have a good relationship with my son as I did with my daughter until about 12 years ago.
As a mother, I cannot imagine that anyone could love my children as much or as unconditionally as I love them.
Somewhere, personalizing a wedding got confused with slapping a monogram on anything that was markable, and replicating every cute idea seen around the blogosphere.