Your letter is not about your ex being a d*ck. If he were a d*ck, you would have stopped thinking about him by now. But you are thinking about him. Almost a year later, and you're reaching out to me, too. You said you shouldn't be thinking about him though. Has someone told you that? Often our friends do.

I felt like I'd been punched in the gut. The body-numbing, time-stopping, paralyzing feeling of hearing your spouse say they are no longer in love with you. It seemed my worst fears had come true; he'd fallen in love with someone else and wanted a divorce.

Life does that, it patiently waits for you to catch up with it, always reminding us that it is also short. There may not always be a tomorrow. Stop saying I will do that when.... Or I will be better when... start living your life. Don't make life wait patiently on you.

Consider this a litmus test for moving on. ✔️