Change is not as easy as it sounds. We all want to change. We really, really want to change. We even pray for change, but so often, when we set out to make that change, we often don't succeed.
The problem is that real change requires really changing. So, how do we replace a bad habit, or build a good one if we can't, or don't know how to actually change?
The most important thing to remember when we are trying to create a positive change is to set a clear intention. That means we need to know what we want. Really know. Whether it is to lose five pounds, make a million dollars, or simply practice being more patient, the strategy remains the same. The clearer your intention, the quicker is the manifestation. If you doubt your desire, it will surely be dubious in manifestation.
Realize that when you set a goal for yourself, success is rarely instantaneous. Expect to wobble, expect to be challenged. If you know this going in, you are more likely to succeed. If you expect to hear no, then you won't be surprised if you do. If you have been eating perfectly and haven't lost a pound in three days, for example, you'll know to hang in there. Do not lose sight of your goal. In this way, if you become tempted by ice cream or pizza, you can gently, lovingly steer yourself in the direction of what is in your highest and best interest, based on what you know you truly want.
Old habits die hard. These habits can be hardwired into us by genetics, physiology, ancestry, or simply by repetitive thought. It takes time to change these patterns, because that is what they are: patterns. And patterns are inherently a closed system. And, a pattern by definition is something that repeats.
So, in order to make the change we want, we must understand why we want it. These reasons must be known through and through, from the inside out. We need to know this by heart. Otherwise it just won't stick. Why do you want to lose weight? Write it down. Memorize it in your body. Your list might say: I want to feel better. I want to look better in my clothes. I want to be healthy and live a vibrant life. If your intention is unclear, you cannot succeed. You will slip gradually back to the old pattern and find yourself back where you started. This is hugely discouraging and worse, can make you lose faith in yourself and your word.
There is a metaphysical principle that says, "Your word is law," meaning, what you say, is what it is. This is critical to understand for real change. You must take yourself seriously. For your Self surely knows if you do, or do not.
Diana Lang is a spiritual teacher and author of OPENING TO MEDITATION -- www.DianaLang.com
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