Feel like the world has taken it out of you? If so, give back to the world.
Yes, sometimes you have to step outside of yourself to remove yourself from your dark mood. And that's not just my opinion, it's a researched opinion of positive psychology expert, Martin Seligman. Seligman says there are three paths to happiness:
1. the pleasant life
2. the good life
3. the meaningful life
"The pleasant life" is basic moment-to-moment contentment--doing simple things like downing martinis or playing computer games. But eventually, you'll get bored and want more.
"The good life" comes through "engagement": spending time with friends and family or getting involved with a rewarding work project. This is a step-up on the happiness food chain.
But the biggest feelings of happiness come from leading "a meaningful life"-- using personal strengths to serve some larger end.
In an experiment called "Philanthropy versus Fun," Seligman divided up his psychology students so that one group engaged in pleasurable activities (going to the movies, eating yummy ice cream) and the other group did philanthropic activities (volunteering at a soup kitchen, reading to the blind).
Guess what? The happiness afterglow of the fun was nothing compared to the lasting happiness of doing altruistic acts.
Meaning? Doing good for others will make you feel good--and, according to Seligman, your highest level of feel-good.
My guess? Altruism raises your mood because it raises your self- esteem, which increases happiness. Plus giving to others gets you outside of yourself and distracts you from your problems.
Bounce Back Assignment:
Ask yourself:
What loving deed can I do?
How can I help those in greater need?
What's an interesting, empowering charity where I can make an ongoing contribution?
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