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What Everyone Can Do During Sex To Make It Even Better

Dr. Laura Berman shares the advice that can create an "astronomical" response.
Lisa Capretto

It's one of the most basic facts of long-term relationships: Intimacy can ebb and flow.

As relationship expert and author Dr. Laura Berman notes, everyone struggles with sexual energy at some point in their busy lives. For those in this position at the moment -- not due to deep-rooted relationship conflicts or any underlying medical issues -- there is good news, Berman says. You can help get things back on track simply by using your body's energy.

The first step, she explains, is to open your heart to your partner by being more tuned in and present in the relationship.

"Look into each other's eyes, synchronize your breath with one another," Berman suggests. "Imagine light flowing back and forth between your hearts."

Then, in the midst of being intimate, focus your mind on that energy and its movement.

"Imagine the energy rising up through your body, through all of your chakras," Berman says, using the Sanskrit word for wheel, or the centers of spiritual power in the body. "Imagine your chakras spinning and vibrating with your body's energy and with the passion between you, being fed not only by your heart's love, but by your partner's love as well."

The end result, she adds, can be quite powerful.

"Not only does your arousal increase and your enjoyment increase and your desire increase, but the response is astronomical," she says. "So try it!"

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Before You Go

Yoga Poses For Better Sex
Ustrasana (01 of06)
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This posture unblocks your whole body by opening your hips and spine, building better endurance. It also helps in de-stressing your whole system — you'll feel lighter and relaxed, yet energetic enough to perform better in bed. Directions: Stand on your knees, and slowly grip your heels with your hands pushing your hips forward, arching your back and dropping your head backwards. Breathe normally holding the posture for 10 to 30 seconds. Repeat 2-3 times. (credit:Bharat Thakur)
Marchariasana (02 of06)
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A supple spine goes a long way in experimenting and lasting longer. This move helps build spinal strength and relaxes the lower back. Breathing rhythmically in this position, will also aid harmonising your breath with your partner — a popular tantric move to connect better. Directions: Place your knees and hands perpendicular to the ground, on the floor. Now inhale slowly while arching your back towards the floor. Hold for a moment and slowly exhale arching your back away from the floor, upwards like a cat. Repeat this cycle 10 – 20 times in a slow rhythmic fashion. (credit:Bharat Thakur)
Badhkonasana (03 of06)
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This posture primarily opens the hips and the inner thighs, increasing your endurance and your flexibility (in the groin area) to try more positions.Directions: Sit with your back straight and bring your feet together. Gently press your knees with your palms stretching the groin region and try to bring your knees all the way to the floor. Hold for 20-30 seconds. Repeat 3 times. (credit:Bharat Thakur)
Setu Bandhasana (04 of06)
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This pose strengthens your pelvic muscles and your core. It will also ensure a rush of blood to your genital area as it stimulates the basic chakra in your body, increasing your libido. Attempt to perform Kegel's exercises in this position to strengthen your pelvic muscles further. Directions: Lie on your back with your knees bent, and bring your feet as close to your buttocks as possible. Squeeze your thighs and buttocks, then lift your torso and press down on your feet. Try to lift your navel as high as possible. Hold the position for at least 30 seconds and work your way up to 3 minutes. When you have completed the set, slowly lower your back to the mat one vertebra at a time until you are flat on your back with knees still bent. Repeat the exercise 3 times. (credit:Mickey Mehta)
Anjaneyasana(05 of06)
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Aside from stretching your thighs, this position strengthens your pelvic floor. The weight bearing on your pelvis will increase the blood flow to the area, aiding cellular regeneration (a process that slows down as you age, reducing your libido). It also helps increase your balance capabilities for standing postures.Directions: From a standing position, step your right leg forward a few feet, and bend your right knee keeping your left leg straight. Your knee should be at a right angle to the floor. Do not allow your knee to extend past your ankle. Your arms can rest on your hips or if you need support, place them on either side of your right foot. Feel the stretch in your inner left leg and the strengthening in your right leg. Take 10 slow deep breaths as you hold the position. Return to the standing position, and do the same on the other side, bringing your left foot forward into the lunge. (credit:Mickey Mehta)
Mandukasan(06 of06)
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Staying in this asana takes some endurance, which will stand you in good stead when trying a position you are not comfortable with. It helps build flexibility in the groin and thigh area as well.Directions: Stay on the mat in a table pose. Keep your ankles behind your knees and turn your feet towards the sides. Keeping your palms pressed to the floor lower yourself on the elbows and arms. Exhale and press your hip backwards to feel the stretch in your hips and thighs. Breathe in and hold for 30 counts. Rock your hip forward as you relax your breath. Come back to normal position and repeat. (credit:Mickey Mehta)
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