sense of self

We are to co-operate with the natural tendencies and act accordingly. There is no need of control and repression. Knowing we are mere witnesses, we must let the body act as an instrument in the hand of the existence and let the divine plan take its course.
As we continue to digitalize our presence, our "self" moves further into a digital space. We are struggling to define ourselves in a space that doesn't exist, it is overwhelming.
Hint: You don't have to be selfless to feel it.
I want to take that young woman, the younger self who was so eager to be liked that she lost a part of herself, gently by the hand and tell her that pleasing yourself first is so much more important than pleasing others. You place so little value on your own being when you live to please others. And you lose a very precious thing in the bargain; your voice and the right to an opinion.
Strengthening your sense of self is going to be key to getting you through those days successfully. Here I will give you the five must's to help strengthen your sense of self and increase your confidence.
Without realizing it we are constantly evaluating our own behavior, successes and "perceived" failures. This is how we have been conditioned. It's time for a change.
I don't want to start a debate on success or happiness. Instead, I want to highlight an opportunity we have as parents: Let's help children everywhere in this world to experience less pain, misery and agony in life.
The casual belief that "I" is very easy to define comes from everyday life. Everyone uses the word all the time, which gives a false sense of security. "I" is the first person, the experiencer. We hang all kinds of labels on it.
It's hard work changing yourself to suit every situation. It's hard work over thinking everything you say to make sure it's just right, and it's hard work having your only validation come from the reactions and approval of others.
Creating the illusion that we are the dust on the mirror, the ego ensures that we believe we could never be so beautiful as the radiant reflection beneath the surface. Yet how extraordinary to believe that we cannot be free when freedom is our true nature!
As easy as it is to think that the brain in its skull casing is all that is necessary to produce mind, it's just as easy, if you permit yourself, to think of Mind as the fundamental nature of everything that exists.
Thinking is happening, in some guise or other, everywhere in your body all the time. This emerging view has the potential to rock our accepted understanding of mind itself.
When someone asks, "Where is the mind located?" most people will automatically point to their heads. Why? Is it because we experience our thoughts in our heads?
I believe that doubt is the No. 1 killer of the human spirit. And it is imperative that we see it and address it and shake it loose. With fear, you can still feel the adrenaline and get the energy to overcome it, but doubt can paralyze you and you don't even feel it.
If we fail to wake up to who we are beyond the story of self, our system will register a "stuckness." It's a developmental arrest that shows up as dissatisfaction, endless stress, loneliness, fear, and joylessness. This is a sign that the timeless dimension of our being is awaiting realization.
Having a healthy ego also means you're not conceited or arrogant, which shouldn't be confused with having confidence or good self-esteem. Thinking you're pretty terrific is absolutely fine. It says a lot about how you value yourself.
Upon meeting someone new, part of me hopes I will never hear the dreaded four words (what-do-you-do) because then I wouldn't have to assess how I am going to respond -- with my pragmatic communications-consultant role, or with the idealistic wanting-to-save-the-world profile.
So, why are we so afraid of failure? What about the very concept of not turning out to be the winner terrifies us and stops us from even trying?