15 Life Lessons Kids Learn From Divorce

15 Life Lessons Kids Learn From Divorce
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When you're a parent considering divorce, it's impossible to quiet the endless worries about how the split will affect your kids: Will their grades suffer, you wonder? Will they swear off committed relationships for the rest of their lives? Will they resent me?

But what parents often fail to realize is how strong and resilient kids can be -- and how experiencing the hardships of divorce can potentially make them stronger than they would have been otherwise.

Just ask HuffPost Divorce readers. On Sunday night, they shared with us the hard, but valuable life lessons they believe their kids learned because of their divorces.

Read what they had to say below, then tell us what lessons you think your kids learned from your divorce in the comment section.

1. "Open and honest communication is essential in any relationship."

2. "My kids have learned that sometimes two people need to be apart and that that's OK. They've also learned that you need to love yourself before you can love someone else."

3. "I showed my daughter that it is possible to be independent and not need a man when her father left me. I was able to walk away with my head held high, knowing I had exhausted all efforts."

4. "My 8-year-old daughter tells me, 'When I grow up I don't want to make the same mistake you did. I want to marry a man I can trust!' I don't know if I should be proud of her for that statement or feel a bit slapped in the face, but it is a lesson."

5. "They learned to not settle in life! Life is too short to allow divorce to drag you down. They've also learned that it's OK to come from a divorced family -- some people marry for the wrong reasons and people change."

6. "They've learned to be a strong person who can admit their wrongdoings and try to make them right. Because of my divorce, they know they can survive adversity and learn from mistakes."

7. "My kids know to love hard, love long, love strong, but to never be someone's fool."

8. "They learned that their mother will always put them first and will always have their back."

9. "My son was 5 and my daughters were 1 when I divorced their mom. They're still young, but I think what they will takeaway later is that marriage takes a lot of work."

10. "That opposites attract, but they don't last."

11. "Since my divorce, my children learned that you can have a firm foundation and that your home can be a sanctuary."

12. "To be independent and make enough money to support yourself so you never have to rely on anyone else."

13. "That love changes shape many times over the course of a lifetime -- but that it's possible to work at getting along with someone if you can let go of your own fears and hurt."

14. "They've learned that both of their parents love them, even if we're not together."

15. "They learned the importance of self-respect."

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Before You Go

What Celebs Said About Their Parent's Divorces
Nicole Richie (01 of11)
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In a 2004 interview with Oprah, Nicole Richie revealed how her dad Lionel Ritchie's 1993 divorce from her mother, Brenda, affected her at eight years old: "When my dad divorced my mom it was kind of like him leaving me also." (credit:AP Photo/Charles Sykes)
Christina Hendricks(02 of11)
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In the March 2012 issue of Cosmopolitan UK, Christina Hendricks opened up about her parents' split. The "Mad Men" star told the magazine that their divorce -- which happened just after she graduated from high school -- "didn't affect" her. "They hadn't been getting along for some time," she said. "I was like, 'Just get a divorce. Save yourselves.'" (credit:AP Photo/Alastair Grant)
Justin Bieber (03 of11)
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During a 2010 concert, Justin Bieber reportedly broke down after performing "Down to Earth," a song inspired by his parent's split, which happened when the pop star was three. "My parents splitting up is definitely not one of the highlights of my life. It's sad, the kid experiences feeling like one of his parents left," Bieber reportedly told Twist magazine in June 2010. "It makes you not feel so good. I think a lot of kids have had their parents split up, and they should know that it wasn't because of something they did." (credit:Matt Sayles/AP)
Khloe Kardashian (04 of11)
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In an April 2011 Us Weekly interview, Khloe Kardashian opened up about gaining weight after her parents' 1991 divorce: "My brother [Rob] and I were always heavy. They gave us food to keep us comforted. All we did was eat crap." (credit:AP Photo/Dan Steinberg)
Britney Spears (05 of11)
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In August 2002, Britney Spears had this to say about her parent's divorce that year: "It's the best thing that's ever happened to my family." (credit:AP Photo/Matt Sayle)
Johnny Depp (06 of11)
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Johnny Depp recently opened up about the response he had to his parents divorce as teen. According to the Daily Mail, the actor said, "I recall hearing my parents argue and thinking: 'Come on, this is torture. Just split!' They stuck it out until I was 15, but I'd seen it coming for years. When they finally did divorce, I thought: 'OK, this is the right thing'." (credit:AP Photo/Tim Aylen)
Pink (07 of11)
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In a 2007 interview with the Sunday Telegraph, singer Pink said she morphed into an angry teen following her parent's divorce. "I was never allowed to go over to any of my friends' houses when I was little, because I was the bad influence," she said. "None of their parents liked me and my own parents were scared to death of me -- and for me." (credit:AP Photo/Charles Sykes)
Justin Timberlake (08 of11)
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In the August 2011 issue of Elle, Justin Timberlake talked about the impact his parent's divorce had on him. "My parents divorced when I was three. I'm humbly and honestly finding out that I have a lot of issues with that," Timberlake told the magazine. "I'm finding more and more that... I'm going to break the chain because that's what you want to do, break the chain of your parents. But at some point, it's in your blood and you have a thing that happens and you're like, 'Holy s**t, my parents did that.'" (credit:AP Photo/Isaac Brekken)
Brooke Hogan (09 of11)
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In 2008, Brooke Hogan opened up about the closure she felt after parents, Hulk and Linda Hogan, divorced. "I was relieved to hear that the divorce was finally signed, sealed and delivered," she said. "They weren't good together. ... So it's like OK, everything's over, everything's done, you guys don't have to hate each other anymore." (credit:AP Photo/Frank Franklin II)
Carrie Fisher(10 of11)
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In a statement released after Elizabeth Taylor's death, Carrie Fisher got sentimental about her father's decision to leave her mother, Debbie Reynolds, for Taylor. "If my father had to divorce my mother for anyone -- I'm so grateful that it was Elizabeth," Fisher said. (credit:AP Photo/Evan Agostini)
Bette Davis (11 of11)
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Film legend Bette Davis allegedly had this to say about her parent's divorce, which occured when she was seven years old: "Of course I replaced my father. I became my own father and everyone else's." (credit:AP Photo )

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