How Internalized Sexism In The Bedroom Could Affect Women's Orgasms

One study found an interesting connection.
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Academic studies can be fascinating... and totally confusing. So we decided to strip away all of the scientific jargon and break them down for you

The Background

Just when we thought we couldn’t hate sexism any more, a recent study explored how it could be affecting women’s life in the bedroom. In a study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, researchers from the University of Queensland in Australia predicted a connection between whether a woman buys into sexist ideas or not, and her sex life. More specifically, they predicted if a woman doesn’t challenge traditional gender roles, she would have less orgasms. 

The Setup

For the purpose of the study, researchers broke down sexism into two categories: hostile and benevolent. Hostile refers to a blatant dislike of women. Researchers described benevolent sexism as sexism that “comprises attitudes that are seemingly complimentary toward women (women have a quality of purity men lack) and also afford women special treatment from men (women should be cherished and protected by men).” In short, benevolent sexism, which the study focused more on, might seem positive when it actually emphasizes gender inequality.

To test this theory, researchers referred to two different experiments. The first experiment consisted of 339 heterosexual women who were between the ages of 18 and 64 who have been in relationships from zero to 39 years. The participants were asked about racism, their political and social dominance orientations and their sexual histories and practices. The experiment also measured how often the women orgasmed, whether they perceived men as sexually selfish and the women’s own levels of sexism.

Experiment two consisted of 323 women who were also in heterosexual relationships. Their ages ranged from 19 to 66, and the women had been in relationships from zero to 45 years. This experiment was similar to the first and measured hostile and benevolent sexism and orgasm frequency. Unlike the first experiment though, it included whether the women were willing to ask their partners for pleasure, or more specifically, whether they were willing to tell their partners how to pleasure them.

The Findings

Emily Harris, one of the researchers behind the study, clarified to The Huffington Post that her team did not find a direct relationship between benevolent sexism and how often women orgasm. Instead, researchers found what she calls a “significant serial mediation pathway,” which is similar to a domino effect. Together, the studies found that women who endorsed benevolent sexism were more likely to think men were sexually selfish and therefore, not willing to ask them for pleasure, which affected how often women orgasmed. Or as Harris put it:

Benevolent sexism was a significant predictor of the belief that men are sexually selfish (an effect that was replicated across two studies); this in turn significantly predicts decreased likelihood to ask for pleasure; and it is this sexual silencing that is a direct predictor of having fewer orgasms.

The Takeaway

Aside from encouraging the obvious idea to voice your desires in the bedroom, this study could also shine a light on a bigger problem. According to Harris, benevolent sexism could have an effect on what she calls the “orgasm gap.”

We show that this could be an important component in the “orgasm gap,” such that if women don’t think their partner will be responsive to their requests for pleasure, why bother? Women may think, well, I’ll just take care of this myself later. Or, in line with traditional gender roles, they may believe that they sexual desire and satisfaction is not important, and indeed, not “feminine,” in the stereotypical sense of the term. 

Don’t forget, ladies. Like Nicki Minaj and Amy Schumer have said, you have the right to climax

Clarification: This article has been updated to more accurately represent the idea of “benevolent” sexism. 

H/T Fusion

Before You Go

4 Surprising Reasons to Have More Sex, According to Science
To Do Your Brain Some Good(01 of04)
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How sex helps: Orgasms increase blood flow to that essential organ.
The science: Sex makes your brain light up, scientifically speaking. Using fMRI machines, researchers have monitored women's brains during orgasm and found a widespread uptick in activity, not just in one or two areas, says Barry Komisaruk, PhD, a professor of psychology and an adjunct professor of radiology at Rutgers, and one such researcher. "These machines monitor how much oxygen your nerve cells are using. The more active they are, the more oxygen they need, and they get it through increased bloodflow," he explains. "By delivering more oxygen to the brain, orgasms increase the amount of bloodflow and nutrients reaching your neurons." Experts haven't pinned down how exactly this might translate into real-world benefits (increased critical-thinking skills, stronger memory, etc.), but they're confident that it means good things for your cognitive health.
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To Help You Conceive, but Not for the Reason You Think(02 of04)
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How sex helps: Regular sex—even outside of your fertile period—may trigger immune and inflammation changes that prep your body for pregnancy.
The science: Your immune system can help or hurt your chances of conceiving. For example, it can assist with uterine tissue changes that make implantation more likely, or it can identify sperm as a harmful invader and basically tell it to scram. Sexual activity, regardless of when it happens during your cycle, appears to signal that it's time to switch from protector mode to a more nurturing, time-to-get-pregnant state, found two recent studies, one in Fertility and Sterility and the other in Physiology & Behavior. The "how" isn't totally clear, but the fact that women using condoms experienced the same changes as women who weren't using them suggests that it's something about sex itself that causes the effect, says Tierney Lorenz, PhD, a visiting research scientist at the Kinsey Institute and lead author of both studies. What's more, another of Lorenz's studies (in Evolution, Medicine, and Public Health) found that sexually active women had lower inflammation levels around peak fertility, which helps with ovulation.
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To Stay Calm and Collected During That Big Presentation(03 of04)
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How sex helps: Your body won't react as strongly to the stress.
The science: People who'd had intercourse frequently in a two-week period experienced a smaller spike in blood pressure compared with people who engaged in other forms of sexual activity or no activity at all when, during the experiment, they were asked to speak in public or do math out loud (the horror), found a small study in Biological Psychology. Your body releases oxytocin (the love hormone that's also been shown to reduce stress) during sexual activity, particularly when you orgasm, and because intercourse may feel more intimate than other sexual activities, the researchers speculate that it could produce more oxytocin activity.
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To Ease Those Won't-Quit Aches, Even if It's Only Temporary(04 of04)
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How sex helps: It blocks pain signals.
The science: It's more technical than simply distracting you from your discomfort. "There's a neuropeptide that gets released into the spinal cord in response to pain. We found in rats that vaginal stimulation blocked that release, and we suspect it's probably the same mechanism at work in humans," says Komisaruk, whose research has shown that vaginal stimulation, in particular, has a powerful pain-blocking effect, lasting anywhere from a few minutes to over a day. Clearly, some women are already in the know: When men and women were asked to give reasons why they have sex for a study inArchives of Sexual Behavior, the researchers came away with 237 different answers, and for women, many included pain relief, says study co-author Cindy Meston, PhD, a professor of clinical psychology and the director of the Female Sexual Psychophysiology Lab at the University of Texas at Austin.
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