21 Movies That Changed How We Felt About Ourselves As Women

21 Movies That Changed How We Felt About Ourselves As Women
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There's something magical about movies. Whether you're watching one in a dark theater, on a couch with some popcorn, or under the comfort of a blanket in your own bed, movies allow us a very specific form of escape.

And women tend to be the most regular moviegoers out there. According to a 2012 MPAA report, women actually go to the movies more than men, making up 52 percent of in-theater audiences each year. It's a wonder then that there aren't more female-led blockbusters. (Hint hint, nudge nudge, Hollywood powers that be.)

Even though the characters are usually fictional, we've learned some pretty amazing lessons from the people that come alive in our favorite films.

We asked the HuffPost editors and our Facebook and Twitter audiences which movies shaped the way they thought about themselves as women. And while we couldn't fit all of the wonderful films on this list, we've rounded up 21 that have made life-changing impressions on our community.

Here are 21 movies that changed how we felt about ourselves as women:


1. "A League Of Their Own"
"Although I was young when it came out it moved me more than any movie. I was a tomboy. It showed [me] that there have been tomboys throughout the years." - Deirdre Zabawa, via Facebook


2. "Now And Then"
"The movie covers so many aspects of that ineffable period in a woman's life: friendship, coming to terms with your changing body, mortality, and love, to name a few. The movie is set in the 70s/90s, but I think most women would agree the themes still resonate. Definitely a movie all young women should watch." - Jenna Amatulli, Associate Editor HuffPost Crime/Weird News

"There really is no better movie about the importance of female friendship, and how that friendship can grow and change over time. The lives of the four (very different) BFFs are at the center of the story, and though male characters factor in, sometimes in a romantic way, the real love story is between the girls." - Emma Gray, Senior Editor HuffPost Women


3. "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind"
"Clementine Kruczynski (played by the incomparable Kate Winslet) in 'Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind' is eccentric, impulsive and a little messed up, yet she's unapologetic and completely self-aware. She was one of the first female characters who spoke to me as saying, 'I'm flawed and I know it. Take me or leave me.'" - Taylor Trudon, Senior Editor HuffPost Teen


4. "When Harry Met Sally"
"'I think what keeps me coming back to this movie is this strong female character that Nora Ephron wrote -- Sally is strong, particular, knows what she wants and isn't afraid to be herself. Harry says she's the worst kind of woman -- high maintenance but she thinks she's low maintenance; Sally says she just 'likes what I like' and good for her! She doesn't apologize for being herself and that's important for every woman to know -- to just be your true self, and don't be afraid of it." - Alexandra Rosario, Blog Editor HuffPost Lifestyle


5. "Juno"
"When I saw this movie in theaters in high school, I'd never encountered a young female character like Juno. She had such a clear sense of self -- with every bump in the road, every decision she made was her own. It was an amazingly refreshing movie to see." - Caroline Bologna, Editorial Fellow HuffPost Parents


6. "Working Girl"
"Melanie Griffith's character may get the guy, but the REAL triumph is the corner office. 'Working Girl' taught me that professional success can feel damn good." - Emma Gray, Senior Editor HuffPost Women


7. "Fried Green Tomatoes"
"I must've watched that a thousand times between the ages of 12 and 16. Idgie taught me that it was OK to have a soft side even if you were trying to be strong; Ruth taught me that it was OK to be strong and a lady at the same time. Evelyn showed me that it's totally OK to ram some chick's car repeatedly if they piss me off!" - Stephanie Berry, via Facebook


8. "Reality Bites"
"I hacked off my hair, took up smoking, and decided to give a smart 'notashit' for most of the 90's. I loved that movie for both its promise of intelligent and committed slackerness and the ironic and graceful fallibility of the characters. Naturally, many years later, it does seem a little silly to be that committed to mediocrity while insisting on your greatness, but maybe that was the point that went over my teenage head like a rocket." - Abby French Wheetley, via Facebook


9. "Thelma & Louise"
"[This movie] made me think really hard about how I had let men treat me." - Madison Walker, via Facebook


10. "Stepmom"
"'Stepmom' taught me to be sympathetic to both sides of the divorce equation -- and I was able to see the struggles both my mom and my stepmother have dealt with through years. It also taught me to cherish my time with family members (especially moms) because you never know when someone's time is up. It reminds you of the impact someone can have on your life -- even when they're gone. And it also taught me how great a good cry during a movie can be." - Hayley Miller, Editor HuffPost Blog


11. "Steel Magnolias"
"[It showed me that] mothers are the strongest people in the world." - Allegra Perkins, via Facebook
"Steel Magnolias taught me that that traditionally 'feminine' things like beauty parlors and motherhood are anything but frivolous. Julia Roberts and Sally Field highlight the incredible strength and bravery of motherhood, and their bonds with the other women at Truvy's Beauty Parlor run deeper than giggles and gossip. And I think that Sally Field's monologue at the end of the movie is one of the most powerful moments in cinema." - Caroline Bologna, Editorial Fellow HuffPost Parents


12. "Iron Jawed Angels"
"[This movie] made me appreciate the sacrifices those before me made in the name of being a woman." - Sophie Elizabeth, via Facebook

"I show [this movie] every year in my Perspectives in Lit class. It resonates with boys and girls, but my hope is that every one of the girls will understand the importance of voting, and what it took for women to have that right." - Jody Weger Andriano, via Facebook

"The scene where she is being force fed during her hunger strike in jail was so moving and heartbreaking and made me think about how far women have come, all the things they've fought for, and how important it is that we still continue the fight for women to be seen as equals in every way, everywhere. Women in media aren't usually shown as being heroes at all but in that movie women were heroes to other women and it was amazing." - Nicole Laverdlere, via Facebook


13. "Obvious Child"
"The movie is a hilarious love story (or maybe a 'like' story) set around an abortion. It's the perfect antidote to all the movies afraid to show abortion for what it is: a normal part of life for a huge number of women. 'Obvious Child' was the proof I needed that any part of being a woman, no matter how sad or serious other people say it is, can be funny if I decide it's funny." - Amanda Gutterman, Associate Editor HuffPost Special Projects


14. "Ever After: A Cinderella Story"
"That movie sent my self confidence through the roof. It took me out of the world of Disney princess fairytales and threw me head first into real world feminism. When she rescues herself at the end? I will always love Drew Barrymore for that. Grace and power are a dynamite duo, and absolutely unbeatable." - Jess Dickerson, Associate Editor HuffPost Black Voices


15. "Legally Blonde"
"When my ex broke up with me I was devastated, I laid on the couch, crying and watching TV. I saw 'Legally Blonde' and enrolled in college a couple months later." - Della Hernandez, via Facebook

"What I took away from 'Legally Blonde' was that even if you're a chihuahua-loving, pink-wearing, bubbly woman that nobody takes seriously, you can still seriously make things happen for you. You don't have to sacrifice your pink power suits or your love of fashion to be a total boss, so long as you believe in yourself." - Lauren Zupkus, Associate Editor HuffPost Entertainment


16. "Mulan"
"[This movie] made me realize I could be just as powerful as any man was. And I could conquer anything. I remember how I felt the first time I saw it when I was 8!" - Deanna Simpkiss, via Facebook


17. "Girl, Interrupted"
"This film showed me that getting a little lost in life isn't always such a bad thing. The 'crazy girl' trope was finally fleshed out in a full narrative and it showed me that a woman can be sad and happy and have emotions and there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, it's something to be proud of." - Alanna Vagianos, Associate Editor HuffPost Women


18. "The Breakfast Club"
"Besides the fact that a young Judd Nelson and Emilio Estevez are swoon-worthy, it taught me that the lines between cool kid and not-cool kid are very blurry. Loner girls and popular girls both have their own shit to deal with, and they just might bond if you lock them in a library together for a day." -Emma Gray, Senior Editor HuffPost Women


19. "The Heat"
"This movie is simply amazing. Melissa McCarthy is basically my idol. Her character reminded me that you can be funny and don't need to look pretty all the time. And that funny women are always the best." - Alanna Vagianos, Associate Editor HuffPost Women


20. "Little Darlings"
"This film was the first time I was really exposed to female sexuality and its consequences for different women. Each character approaches her sex-pedition differently and largely based on how society expects certain types of women from certain types of backgrounds to exert their sexuality, but the ending throws these stereotypes into sharp relief. Equal parts sobering and exciting, 'Little Darlings' showed me that sexuality is fraught with social, political and economic factors, which all women experience and navigate differently." - Amanda Duberman, News Editor HuffPost Women


21. "Zero Dark Thirty"
"'Zero Dark Thirty' was an empowering movie to watch as a woman. We so rarely get to watch movies with female heroes in general, but to see one that's based on a true woman leading the CIA against terror was pretty badass. I thought it did a wonderful job of depicting the benefits and complications of a woman in charge and I left feeling stronger than when I entered the theater." - Jessica Kane, Director of Millennial Outreach HuffPost Teen

Before You Go

18 Books Every Young Woman Should Read
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As any book lover knows, reading provides an ability to escape. Whether it's for a few minutes before bed, on the hour-long bus ride to work or even a full day under the sun -- books and the stories they hold are a driving force for creativity, growth and (almost always) relaxation.Novels allow us to visit places, time periods and states of mind we never thought possible. Often these stories and their characters change how we see ourselves and put us on a completely new path.It's no surprise that women are big readers, contributing to 64 percent of book sales. With these statistics in mind (and our own healthy addiction to reading), we asked the HuffPost editors and our Facebook audience which books shaped the way they thought about themselves as young women. And while we couldn't fit all of the amazing books on this list, we've rounded up 18 that have made life-changing impressions on our community.In the name of written words that have left a permanent mark on us, here are 18 books that changed the way many young women felt about themselves:
1. The Bluest Eye(02 of18)
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"The Bluest Eye helped me to realize that I was truly beautiful -- both inside and out -- in spite of society's standards." - Dana Oliver, Senior Beauty Editor"[This book] definitely changed the way I felt about myself as a young, black woman -- especially after growing up in predominantly white areas/schools. I used to adhere to these sort of beauty ideals that all of my friends wanted for themselves, and similar to one of the main characters Pecola... It wasn't until I read this book for a 1960s literature class that it really hit me that I should enhance and embrace my own beauty, instead of morphing myself into somebody else." - Chanel Parks, Style Fellow
2. The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath(03 of18)
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"Some of The Bell Jar reads like Austen -- a literary vestige of times gone by. But reading Plath's 'fig tree' metaphor for the lack of dimension often demanded of women's lives, in which Esther Greenwood finds herself 'starving to death' when she is unable to choose which metaphorical 'fig' to reach for (career, love, ambition, children), was the first time the perennial paradox of womanhood was elucidated so clearly for me." - Amanda Duberman, News Editor HuffPost Women"I strongly believe every woman, young and old, should read it a few times throughout their lives as it will strike different chords at different times but it is so wonderful no matter the relevance at the time." - Jaecie Butler, via Facebook
3. How Should A Person Be? by Sheila Heti(04 of18)
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"[Heti] found a way to articulate the messy mix of ambition, self-doubt and complicated feelings about success that many young women -- particularly those of a creative persuasion -- experience... It also depicts the intimacy and difficulty and kindness of female friendships in a way that I'd never seen before in print." - Meredith Melnick, Editorial Director Healthy Living
5. White Oleander by Janet Fitch(05 of18)
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"I felt the power of all women after reading that. It's never far from my heart, literally." - Candace Alyshia, via Facebook"[It] taught me about how unfair the world can be to certain people but you should always fight for what's right." - Kerri Padilla, via Facebook
6. To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee(06 of18)
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"I still read it once a year. It's super grounding. It reminds me to actively practice empathy and patience toward others." - Ley Allen, via Facebook
7. A Wrinkle In Time by Madeleine L'Engle(07 of18)
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"Life lesson: Nerdy girls are awesome too." - Emma Gray, Senior Editor HuffPost Women
8. The Poetry Of Emily Dickinson by Emily Dickinson(08 of18)
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"We were assigned boy-centric classics growing up (Hemingway, Fitzgerald, etc), which today I realize was really problematic. I'd begun to think that literature could only be associated with things like men fighting wars, and didn't realize that subtle, emotional observations can be as weighty and important as so-called 'masculine' subjects. In eighth grade I found The Poetry of Emily Dickinson lying around my house, and reading it did away with that mindset completely. I've been in love with language, and female writers who tell bold, quiet stories, ever since." - Maddie Crum, Editor HuffPost Books
9. The Diary Of Anaïs Nin by Anaïs Nin(09 of18)
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"Nin challenged, in her writings and life, the conventions of writing, art, love, sexuality, feminism, eroticism, morality, marriage, monogamy, law, etc. While I disagree with some of her life choices, her writings, as a young woman, gave me the courage to challenge the status quo. " - Kimiki Wolf, via Facebook
10. The Secret Life Of Bees by Sue Monk Kidd(10 of18)
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"[This book] taught me about the importance of strong female relationships in a woman's life, that you're much stronger than you think you are and sometimes the best kind of family is the one you choose for yourself." - Holly Chapman, via Facebook.
11. Little Women by Louisa May Alcott(11 of18)
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"It made me feel strong, independent and that I wanted to be a writer, which I am today. I am a working print journalist. I identified greatly with Jo." Nancy MacPhee, via Facebook
12. The Women's Room by Marilyn French(12 of18)
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" [It] made me appreciate the women's rights activists that came before me, how far we've come and how much further we have yet to go.Every woman, young or old should read it." - Ivana Batkovic, via Facebook.
13. Dealing With Dragons by Patricia C. Wrede(13 of18)
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"I used to carry a copy [of the book] around with me everywhere as a little girl, I think because it was proof that my two secret life aspirations weren't abnormal: 1. to never, ever find a husband, and 2. to acquire a pet dragon as soon as possible so we could go on nature-related adventures together." - Elizabeth Perle, Senior Editor HuffPost Teen
14. The Red Tent by Anita Diamant(14 of18)
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"It inspired me to become a midwife and to be what I want to be as a woman because I want it, not because of what others dictate." - Emma McNulty, via Facebook"It reminded me of the sisterhood I was a part of, and how uniquely we must view our places in the world." - Anjelica Guevara, via Facebook
15.Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë(15 of18)
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" Jane Eyre taught me that anyone with the will to do so can rise above his/her circumstances and lead a life that counts for something." - Beth Elizabeth, via Facebook
16. Tori Amos: Piece By Piece by Tori Amos and Ann Powers(16 of18)
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"One statement from Tori Amos: Piece by Piece by Tori Amos and Ann Powers: 'I was born a feminist.' That statement really helped define who I am; I have always followed my own path, always trying to resist letting others define my personal brand of femininity and womanhood." - Anne Bettina Pedersen, via Facebook
17. Our Bodies, Ourselves produced by the Boston Women's Health Book Collective(17 of18)
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"Not a novel, but it is literally the bible when it comes to female body image, sexuality and how our bodies actually work. It's everything your mother wanted to tell you, but probably couldn't." - Emma Gray, Senior Editor HuffPost Women
18. Ella Enchanted by Gail Carson Levine(18 of18)
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"[Ella] was her own hero. No prince needed. She overcame a problem that should have seemed hopeless." - Krystal DeLatte, via Facebook