Woman In A Wheelchair Gives Powerful Response To A Rude Question About Her Sex Life

"This body is broken but it is beautiful."

 

 

“I get a lot of questions from strangers who think that because my wheelchair puts me at a lower height, the walls surrounding my personal life must be lower too.” 

So begins Kelsey Warren’s riveting spoken word poem called "My Body." As a disabled woman, Warren discusses the rude stares and even ruder questions she constantly receives. Although she says these run-of-the-mill intrusions don't bother her any longer, she points out one question she recently received that really got under her skin: 

“So do you like let your partner have a side relationship so they can have normal sex every once in awhile?” 

“Honey,” she replies to the question in her performance. “If they’re with me, they’re not looking for normal and I don’t mean because I’m crippled.” 

Warren goes on to explain that her sex is exciting and comfortable and sensual -- really anything but "normal" and that's why it's so good. “Sex with me is never normal," she tells the crowd. "Cripple copulation may be slightly more complicated, but it is always climactic. Not once has someone that I had sex wit said my sex was less than.”

She proudly proclaims her body is beautiful. "This body wasn’t made to meet your definition of desirable," Warren says. "This body doesn’t exist to be taken or left. This body is broken but it is beautiful."

With her powerful delivery, Warren nears the end of the poem with a truth all women can heed: "My body will not be denied its worth. My body will keep the job of being my body, perfectly."

 

 

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Social Media(01 of14)
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Malala Yousafzai's Nobel Peace Prize(02 of14)
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Not only is Malala Yousafzai the youngest person to ever win a Nobel Peace Prize (which she shared with fellow children's rights advocate Kailash Satyarthi), the 17 year old is fighting specifically for the opportunity for girls to get an equal education to boys. (credit:AP Photo/Matt Dunham)
A Feminist In Power(03 of14)
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Kathleen Wynne was elected premier of Canada's most populous province, Ontario, in a majority win in June, but to us, her best moment came only weeks ago in a speech at the Women of Influence conference. Among her many unapologetically feminist remarks was this:
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Girls Playing With Boys(04 of14)
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Mo'ne Davis became the first female pitcher in Little League World Series history to pitch a complete-game shutout — and in Canada, Team Canada goalie Shannon Szabados signed on for a full year with men's team Columbus Cottonmouths, and bobsledder (and athlete of the year) Kaillie Humphries will be one of the first women competing alongside men on the World Cup circuit this season. (credit:AP Photo/Kyle Terada, Pool)
Emma Watson Talks Feminism For Everyone(05 of14)
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When UN Women Global Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson stood up in front of the United Nations to launch HeForShe campaign, she made a point to discuss when men advocate as feminists, everyone can benefit. (credit:Eduardo Munoz Alvarez via Getty Images)
Standing Up For Justice(06 of14)
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Rinelle Harper, a 16-year-old Aboriginal woman who was assaulted and narrowly managed to escape with her life, made a speech to the Assembly of First Nations last week. Her ordeal has called renewed attention the hundreds of missing and murdered aboriginal women in the country, and her bravery in being publicly identified helped arrest the men who allegedly attacked her.
Egg Freezing Goes Mainstream (Ish)(07 of14)
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For women who want the option of putting off having kids (or are still unsure about having them at all), more and more companies (most famously this year, Apple and Facebook) are offering egg freezing as part of their benefits packages. While some felt this could add pressure to work even harder at your job, we say choices are a good thing. (credit:Science Photo Library via Getty Images)
Breastfeeding In Public(08 of14)
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We're not saying that women have managed to win every battle over feeding their babies in public, but when you have a male, teen Starbucks barista on your side, you know it's becoming less of an issue. (credit:Johner Images - Nyman, Fredrik via Getty Images)
"Feminist" Gets Feminine(09 of14)
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Beyonce, arguably the sexiest woman in the world, stood like a statue in front of the word "feminist," during the 2014 MTV Video Music Awards in August. If that doesn't tell you labelling yourself a feminist is something to be proud of, perhaps Aziz Ansari's quote on the topic might help. "You're a feminist if you go to a Jay-Z and Beyoncé concert and you're not like, 'I feel like Beyoncé should get 23 percent less money than Jay-Z,. Also, I don't think Beyoncé should have the right to vote and why is Beyoncé singing and dancing? Shouldn't she make Jay a steak?'"
Mutual Respect For All Moms(10 of14)
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Female Superheroes(11 of14)
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With the change from a male to a female Thor this year, Marvel Comics demonstrated its serious commitment to getting all those lady dollars — and we couldn't imagine investing our money in a better place than stories that show strong, tough women who can act as role models for young girls.
Laverne Cox On Time(12 of14)
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As the first transgendered person on the cover of Time, Laverne Cox became the face of a new way to define gender. "This is for my trans siblings out there and for anyone who has ever been told that who you know yourself to be at your core is not legitimate," she wrote on Facebook.
Men Making Their Families A Priority(13 of14)
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Dads have always played a massive role in family life, of course, but this year, it was at the forefront. The combination of a couple of high-profile stories of fathers leaving their jobs to spend time with the kids, like Mohamed El-Erian and Max Schireson, and commercials (like this Cheerios one) that worked to change the perception of dads, showed a marked change in assumed stereotypes.
Laughing In The Face Of Oppression(14 of14)
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When Turkish Deputy Prime Minister Bülent Arinc made statements to the effect of, "[A woman] should not laugh loudly in front of all the world and should preserve her decency at all times," Turkish women responded by posting pictures of themselves with wide grins, looking both decent AND gorgeous, under the hashtag #direnkahkaha.

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