12 Reasons To Date A Woman Who Reads

12 Reasons To Date A Woman Who Reads
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Filmmaker John Waters once said, "If you go home with somebody, and they don’t have any books, don’t f**k ’em."

Excellent advice.

I may be biased when I say that readers are cool, dateable people -- after all, I was the kid who brought my books to the dinner table -- but there are definite perks to dating someone who loves to read. And I don't just mean people who are interested in literary fiction and huge war histories -- loving YA vampire novels or thrillers or bodice-rippers is just as worthwhile. Really, there's nothing sexier than someone with a book.

Here are 12 reasons it's great to date someone who reads:

1. You know she’s fine spending time on her own. People who read can entertain themselves for hours without you. Yes, you might get ignored for a couple of days when the new Outlander novel comes out, but a person who can hang out with themselves and a book won't get upset when you work late. Jamie is waiting.

2. She’s empathetic. Studies have shown that people who read fiction are particularly empathetic towards others. This makes total sense -- readers can put themselves in any character's shoes. When you're reading, you're constantly empathizing, trying to understand why a particular character is acting in a particular way.

3. She's a critical thinker. She's someone you can talk through a tough decision with, and know she'll give real thought to all the moving parts. People who read have stronger analytical skills, so a reader will be better equipped to assess a situation and find the right solution.

4. She has a sense of perspective. Her crummy commute is nowhere near as bad as what's going on in The Handmaid's Tale, provided her commute did not involve being transported to a totalitarian society and forced to bear children for other couples.

5. She's easily entertained. Setting her free in a bookstore or stopping to browse at one of those streetside book stalls is her idea of heaven. All a reader needs for an adventure is a place to sit and a good story.

6. She’ll be able to teach you things. Readers accumulate a lot of random facts, and they can usually explain things in a clear, concise way. A reader is the best person to have on your team for a pub quiz, and the worst person to play Jeopardy! against.

7. She's curious. Someone hungry for more out of life -- more stories, more information, more experiences -- will keep things interesting.

8. She’s probably a good listener. Anyone who can spend hours and hours reading someone else’s stories will be just as interested in what you have to say.

9. She’s easy to buy gifts for (and we've got you covered).

10. She has a great memory for detail. Your favorite drink? Your mom's birthday? Your absolute hatred of massages? Covered. Reading improves your memory, and let's be real, it's useful to date someone who will remember to pick up toilet paper on the way home.

11. She’s involved in the world, and I don't just mean whatever fictional universe she's immersed in at the time. People who read are more likely to vote, attend cultural events and be more engaged in their communities.

12. And the best thing about dating a reader? She'll probably encourage you to pick up a book yourself, so you can reap all the benefits reading has to bring. Plus, reading next to each other in bed is so much better than playing Candy Crush.

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Readers Share: Books Every Woman Should Read
'Are You There God, It's Me Margaret' By Judy Blume(01 of57)
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Yearling | $6.99 | Amazon.com "It tackles religion, the awkwardness of adolescence, and the weird contraptions that women used to use when they first got their periods. (References to the "belt" definitely confused me as a kid.)" -Kathleen Massara, Editor, Huffington Post Arts (credit:Amazon )
'The Handmaid's Tale' By Margaret Atwood(02 of57)
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Anchor | $10.20 | Amazon.com"In the near future, the United States is overthrown by a group called the Sons of Jacob. The bank accounts of women and other undesirables are frozen, and a group known as Handmaids become the hosts for the future children of the ruling class. This book will haunt you, and is a reminder of how easy it is for extremists to take over... Once they do, the target is often women. (No thanks, Santorum!)" -Kathleen Massara, Editor, Huffington Post Arts (credit:Amazon )
'A Room Of One's Own' By Virginia Woolf (03 of57)
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Mariner Books | $10.40 | Amazon.com-Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'Diving Into The Wreck' By Adrienne Rich(04 of57)
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Norton | $10.55 | Amazon (credit:wwnorton.tumblr.com)
'The Wife Of Bath' By Geoffrey Chaucer(05 of57)
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Bedford/St. Martin's | $12.32 | Amazon.com-Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'As You Like It' By William Shakespeare(06 of57)
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Simon & Schuster | $5.99 | Amazon.com "I feel like he always includes extremely strong female characters, especially for the time period." -Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'Madame Bovary' By Gustave Flaubert(07 of57)
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Bantam Classics | $5.95 | Amazon.com -Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'The Virgin Suicides' By Jeffrey Eugenides(08 of57)
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Picador | $10.99 | Amazon.com"A much better pick for women than Middlesex...for some reason, he is REALLY able to capture what it is like to be a teenage girl in that book." -Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'Deenie' By Judy Blume (09 of57)
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Delacorte Books for Young Readers | $8.99 | Amazon.com-Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'Little Women' By Louisa May Alcott(10 of57)
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Signet Classics | $3.95 | Amazon.com -Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'Seventh Heaven' By Alice Hoffman(11 of57)
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Putnam Adult | $11.28 | Amazon.com "A coming of age novel for those who came of age in the 1960s. Beautifully written story about a brassy divorcee (yes, that's what they were called) moving into a Long Island subdivision (think Levittown) in the 1950s that busts the myth of life behind the white picket fences."-Ann Brenoff, Senior Writer, Huffington Post L.A. (credit:Amazon )
'The Women's Room' By Marilyn French(12 of57)
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Summit | $12.00 | Amazon.com"The best novel of the women's liberation movement" -Ann Brenoff, Senior Writer, Huffington Post L.A. (credit:Amazon )
'Fear Of Flying' By Erica Jong(13 of57)
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NAL Trade | $10.88 | Amazon.com "This one rocked my world! It was ground-breaking -- uninhibited story of Isadora Wing." -Ann Brenoff, Senior Writer, Huffington Post L.A. (credit:Amazon )
'Hateship, Friendship, Courtship, Loveship, Marriage' By Alice Munro(14 of57)
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Vintage | $10.20 | Amazon.com"-Meredith Melnick, Editor, The Huffington Post Nutrition and Fitness (credit:Amazon )
'Housekeeping' By Marilynne Robinson(15 of57)
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Picador | $10.20 | Amazon.com -Zoë Triska, Associate Editor, Huffington Post Books (credit:Amazon )
'Frida: A Biography Of Frida Kahlo' By Hayden Herrera(16 of57)
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Harper Perennial | $16.49 | Amazon.com-Kimberly Brooks, Founding Editor, Huffington Post Arts and Editor, Huffington Post Science (credit:Amazon )
'The Twilight Series' By Stephenie Meyer(17 of57)
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Little, Brown and Co. | $11.08 | Amazon.com "Just to know what 500 Million girls got so excited about!" -Kimberly Brooks, Founding Editor, Huffington Post Arts and Editor, Huffington Post Science (credit:Amazon )
'The Awakening' By Kate Chopin(18 of57)
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Avon | $4.99 | Amazon.com -Lori Leibovich, Executive Lifestyle Editor, Huffington Post (credit:Amazon )
'The Bell Jar' By Sylvia Plath(19 of57)
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Harper Perennial Modern Classics | $10.04 | Amazon.com-Lori Leibovich, Executive Lifestyle Editor, Huffington Post (credit:Amazon )
'Bossypants' By Tina Fey(20 of57)
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Reagan Arthur Books | $16.19 | Amazon.com-Lori Leibovich, Executive Lifestyle Editor, Huffington Post (credit:Amazon )
'Franny And Zooey' By J.D. Salinger (21 of57)
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Little, Brown and Company | $6.99 | Amazon.com-Farah Miller, Managing Editor, Huffington Post Parents (credit:Amazon )
'The Lovely Bones' By Alice Sebold (22 of57)
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Little Brown | $14.10 | Amazon.com -Ann Brenoff, Senior Writer, Huffington Post L.A. (credit:Amazon )
'When Everything Changed' By Gail Collins (23 of57)
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Little, Brown and Company | $18.47 | Amazon.com -Meredith Melnick, Editor, The Huffington Post Nutrition and Fitness (credit:Amazon )
'Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit' By Jeanette Winterson(24 of57)
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Grove Press | $10.17 | Amazon.com "An insanely ambitious novel which is really a memoir and doesn't apologize for that." Margaret Wheeler Johnson, Editor, Huffington Post Women (credit:Amazon )
'The Girls Of Slender Means' By Muriel Spark (25 of57)
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New Directions | $9.44 | Amazon.com "A women's boarding house novel is almost as great as a girls boarding school novel, especially if a bomb and a Schiaparelli dress are involved." -Margaret Wheeler Johnson, Editor, Huffington Post Women (credit:Amazon )
'The Liars Club' By Mary Karr (26 of57)
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Penguin | $8.47 | Amazon.com "My mother drove me across the Sabine bridge ten or twenty times in my childhood, and I never knew our safe passage could be a testament to her sanity until I read Karr's account of being charioted across it by her own mother who was in the middle of a psychotic break. Also a really fine portrait of flawed fatherhood. Karr is the master of revealing her (real) characters' dignity and crazy in equal turns." -Margaret Wheeler Johnson, Editor, Huffington Post Women (credit:Amazon )
'Get To Work: . . . And Get A Life, Before It's Too Late' By Linda R. Hirshman (27 of57)
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Penguin | $12.00 | Amazon.com"Her strategic plan for women: "don't study art," "never quit a job until you have another one" -Emily Peck, Managing Editor, Huffington Post Business (credit:Amazon )
'Nickel And Dimed: On (Not) Getting By In America' By Barbara Ehrenreich(28 of57)
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Holt Paperbacks | $1.99 | Amazon.com -Meredith Melnick, Editor, The Huffington Post Nutrition and Fitness (credit:Amazon )
'The Beauty Myth: How Images Of Beauty Are Used Against Women' By Naomi Wolf (29 of57)
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Harper Perennial | $10.19 | Amazon.com-Laura Schocker, Associate Editor, Huffinton Post Healthy Living (credit:Amazon )
'Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom' By Christiane Northrup(30 of57)
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Bantam | $12.20 | Amazon.com"It's the body bible for every woman" -Alana B. Elias Kornfeld, Senior Editor, International Huffington Post Media Group, (credit:Amazon )
'Half The Sky: Turning Oppression Into Opportunity For Women Worldwide' By Nicholas D. Kristof (31 of57)
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Knopf | $19.11 | Amazon.com-Jessica Prois, Editor, Huffington Post Impact (credit:Amazon )
'The Woman At The Washington Zoo: Writings On Politics, Family, And Fate' By Marjorie Williams (32 of57)
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PublicAffairs | $ | Amazon.com "Marjorie Williams has an incredible gift for profiles--the stories she writes about her subjects, from barbara bush to D.C. socialite, are so nuanced, so detailed and so intimate. The book also has a must-read collection of her columns about being a working woman and mother."-Bianca Bosker, Senior Editor, Huffington Post Tech (credit:Amazon )
'Last Night I Dreamed Of Peace: The Diary Of Dang Thuy Tram' By Dang Thuy Tram(33 of57)
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Broadway | $11.07 | Amazon.com"Not only is this book unique because it offers a Vietnamese perspective on the Vietnam War, but it also one of the few to offer a female point of view. Thuy Tram's diary offers an intimate look both into the war and into the life of a 20-something faced with becoming a woman in very challenging circumstances." -Michelle Persad, Intern, Huffington Post Women (credit:Amazon )
'The Feminine Mystique' By Betty Friedan(34 of57)
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Norton | 11.75 | Barnesandnoble.com (credit:Barnesandnoble.com)
'Backlash' By Susan Faludi(35 of57)
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Crown | $14.95 | Barnesandnoble.com (credit:Barnesandnoble.com)
'Collected Poems' By Edna St. Vincent Millay(36 of57)
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HarperCollins | $17.57 | Barnesandnoble.com (credit:Barnesandnoble.com)
'Big Girls Don't Cry' By Rebecca Traister(37 of57)
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Free Press | $26 | Barnesandnoble.com (credit:Barnesandnoble.com)
'Forever' By Judy Blume (38 of57)
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Simon Pulse | $8.99 | Amazon.com "I read this book shortly before I became sexually active. This book, featuring Planned Parenthood, spared me from teenage pregnancy." Julia Jensen (credit:Amazon )
'The Help' By Kathryn Stockett (39 of57)
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Amy Einhorn Books/Putnam | $14.82 | Amazon.comSubmitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'The Guernsey Literary And Potato Peel Pie Society' By Mary Ann Shaffer (40 of57)
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The Dial Press | $15.93 | Amazon.comSubmitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'The Night Circus' By Erin Morgenstern(41 of57)
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Doubleday | $17.79 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'The Lantern' By Deborah Lawrenson(42 of57)
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Harper | $13.55 | Amazon.comSubmitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'South Of Superior' By Ellen Airgood (43 of57)
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Riverhead Hardcover | $13.98 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'The Language Of Trees' By Ilie Ruby(44 of57)
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William Morrow Paperbacks | $11.69 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'The Penderwicks: A Summer Tale Of Four Sisters, Two Rabbits, And A Very Interesting Boy' By Jeanne Birdsall(45 of57)
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Knopf Books | $10.85 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Sara Hadley (credit:Amazon )
'Still Here: Embracing Aging, Changing, And Dying' By Ram Dass (46 of57)
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Riverhead Books | $10.09 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Rae Carson (credit:Amazon )
'Female Chauvinist Pigs' By Ariel Levy(47 of57)
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Free Press | $9.74 | Amazon.comSubmitted by HuffPost Women reader Lauren Hedinger (credit:Amazon )
'The Paper Garden' By Molly Peacock(48 of57)
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Bloomsbury USA | $13.60 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Shaunee Power (credit:Amazon )
'In The Land Of The Grasshopper Song' By Mary Ellicott Arnold(49 of57)
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Bison Books | $15.56 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Shaunee Power (credit:Amazon )
'Their Eyes Were Watching God' By Zora Neale Hurston(50 of57)
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Harper Perennial Modern Classics | $10.87 | Amazon.com Submitted by Journalist/Author Rebecca Traister (credit:Amazon )
'A Tree Grows In Brooklyn' By Betty Smith (51 of57)
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Harper Perennial Modern Classics| $11.55 | Amazon.com Submitted by Journalist/Author Rebecca Traister (credit:Amazon )
'Song Of Solomon' By Toni Morrison(52 of57)
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Vintage | $10.20 | Amazon.com Submitted by Journalist/Author Rebecca Traister (credit:Amazon)
'The Woman Warrior' By Maxine Hong Kingston(53 of57)
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Vintage | $11.20 | Amazon.com Submitted by Journalist/Author Rebecca Traister (credit:Amazon )
'To Kill A Mockingbird' By Harper Lee (54 of57)
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Grand Central Publishing | $7.99 | Amazon.com Submitted by Journalist/Author Rebecca Traister (credit:Amazon )
'My Antonia' By Willa Cather (55 of57)
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Mariner Books | $7.95 | Amazon.com Submitted by Journalist/Author Rebecca Traister (credit:Amazon )
'Pride And Prejudice' By Jane Austen(56 of57)
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Bantam Classics | $4.95 | Amazon.comSubmitted by HuffPost Women reader Syretta Jefferson (credit:Amazon )
'We Need to Talk About Kevin' By Lionel Shriver (57 of57)
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Harper Perennial | $10.19 | Amazon.com Submitted by HuffPost Women reader Belinda Cech (credit:Amazon )