How Movies And TV Shows Are Changing The Way You Think About Love

Why Watching 'The Bachelor' May Be Bad For Your Love Life
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This image released by ABC shows Andi Dorfman, left, and Eric Hill on the premiere episode of "The Bachelorette," premiering Monday, May 19, 2014 on ABC. (AP Photo/ABC, Rick Rowell)

The movies and TV shows watched by millions aren't just entertaining; a new study says they're affecting how people view romance and changing how they behave in relationships.

Researchers from The University of Michigan studied 625 college students (392 of whom were female) to determine if movies and TV shows were influencing their love lives.

Participants were given a list of 93 romantic films, such as "500 Days of Summer," "Crazy Stupid Love," and "In Time" and asked how many they had seen.

Next, they were given a list of 17 sitcoms including "How I Met Your Mother" and "Big Bang Theory" and were asked how many they watch and how often. Lastly, they were asked if and how often they watch marriage-themed reality shows like "The Bachelor" and "Millionaire Matchmaker."

Researchers then analyzed the students' ideas about love and also gauged whether or not participants believed that TV portrayed real life or saw it as total fantasy.

At the end of the study, three conclusions emerged:

  • More exposure to romantic movies led to a greater tendency to believe "love finds a way" and can overcome all obstacles.

  • More exposure to marriage-themed reality shows led participants to believe in "love at first sight" and that true love will be nearly perfect (what researchers call "idealization").
  • On the other hand, watching TV sitcoms led to a negative view of romance and very little endorsement for concepts like "love finds a way," "love at first sight," "idealization" and the "one and only".
  • Thus, the researchers suggest that the behaviors shown in each entertainment genre are actually being imprinted into our views of romance. For example, watching lavish dates on "The Bachelor" leads viewers to idealize love, while watching a couple bicker on a sitcom leads to a more negative impression of marriage.

    So what does this mean for your own love life?

    "Previous research suggests that beliefs about relationships can have implications for relationship satisfaction and longevity," study author Julia Lippman wrote in an email to The Huffington Post.

    Indeed, past studies have illustrated that people who can be classified as romantic appear to have more successful romantic relationships: they report high levels of love for a current partner, higher levels of relationship satisfaction, greater commitment, and a decreased tendency to engage in extramarital sex.

    However, as Lippman points out, while certain romantic ideals can lead to stronger relationships, they can have negative consequences as well.

    "Seeing your partner through rose-colored glasses is associated with higher levels of relationship satisfaction, but it is easy to see how seeing a partner who is bad news through rose-colored glasses (say, someone who is abusive) could have negative implications," such as staying in a bad relationship for too long. More research is needed to explore that topic further.

    The findings were recently published in the journal Psychology of Popular Media Culture.

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    Before You Go

    Stars' Favorite Romantic Films
    Drew Barrymore(01 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: There's the adorable "Never Been Kissed" (1999), the goofy "The Wedding Singer" (1998), the amnesia-themed "50 First Dates" (2004)...Favorite Romantic Movie: "She's Having a Baby" (1988)Why It's Wonderful: "This film shows a different, more adult side of John Hughes as a director, but it never loses his sense of play. There are so many memorable moments, like when Kevin Bacon's character rests his coffee cup on his wife's very pregnant stomach, or when she tells him she stopped taking birth control and it cuts to a shot of him strapped to the front of a speeding train. The film is grounded and real but also a total absurd fantasy."Best Line: "Here's to successful fertilization, sweetie!" (credit:Getty Images)
    Molly Ringwald(02 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: She exits the church in her bridesmaid dress to find crush Jake Ryan waiting -- for her. (We refer, of course, to 1984's "Sixteen Candles.")Favorite Romantic Movie: "Reds" (1981)Why It's Wonderful: "I was probably the only 14-year-old on the planet who saw this three times in the theater. It may be an interesting historical drama, but at its heart, it's really an epic romance about two idealistic artists. Toward the end, Diane Keaton's character finally finds the love of her life in a train station in Russia, and the long shot of her walking toward him, flooded with relief, is one of the most romantic moments ever filmed."Best Line: "Grand things are ahead, worth living and worth dying for." (credit:Getty Images)
    Regina King(03 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: Costar of the tropical bodice-ripper "How Stella Got Her Groove Back" (1998); also played world's most encouraging wife in "Jerry Maguire" (1996).Favorite Romantic Movie: "Coming to America" (1988)Why It's Wonderful: "Eddie Murphy was hilarious as usual, but also charming -- a modern-day Prince Charming, actually. The film isn't a typical love story, but it feels particularly special because it was one of the first times girls of color saw someone who looked like them get swept off her feet in a movie."Best Line: "But where in New York can one find a woman with grace, elegance, taste, and culture? A woman suitable for a king?" "Queens!" (credit:Getty Images)
    Vivica A. Fox(04 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: She waged a war of the sexes in "Two Can Play That Game" (2001), and charmed as Larry David's feisty girlfriend on the TV series "Curb Your Enthusiasm."Favorite Romantic Movie: "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" (2002)Why It's Wonderful: "It's a fun glimpse of everything I enjoy about Greek culture: delicious food and close-knit families. Plus, I appreciate that the female lead, Nia Vardalos, isn't your typical Hollywood vixen -- she seems more like a woman you could actually meet."Best Line: "Why do you love me?" "Because I came alive when I met you." (credit:Getty Images)
    Amy Heckerling(05 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: Director of that timeless ode to Valley Girl culture -- and finding love in unexpected places -- known as "Clueless" (1995).Favorite Romantic Movie: "Moonstruck" (1987)Why It's Wonderful: "Nicolas Cage delivers one of the most romantic speeches I've ever heard. He tells the character Loretta, played by Cher, that we're not here on Earth to have nice little lives -- we're here to make messes and get our hearts broken. It's sloppy and poetic at the same time. The people in this film speak in a strange vernacular, and the contrast between the reality of regular New Yorkers and their dramatic, beautiful dialogue is delightful."Best Line: "The past and the future is a joke to me now. I see that they're nothing. I see they ain't here. The only thing that's here is you -- and me." (credit:Getty Images)
    Erika Christensen(06 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: Costarred in 2005's "The Upside of Anger" and currently costars on NBC's "Parenthood," in which her fictional marriage is movingly sweet and endearingly flawed.Favorite Romantic Movie: "The Intouchables" (2011)Why It's Wonderful: "This is a French film that came out recently -- a love story between two men who learn so much from each other. After an accident leaves him a quadriplegic, a wealthy man hires a younger guy from the projects to take care of him, and they reawaken each other, sharing their unique takes on the world. It's inspiring without being saccharine. And it's really funny. I left the theater so happy."Best Line: "Why do you think people are interested in art?... Because it's the only thing one leaves behind." (credit:Getty Images)
    Roger Ebert(07 of07)
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    Romantic-Movie Cred: America's most beloved film critic; happily married for 20 years.Favorite Romantic Movie: "A Walk in the Clouds" (1995)Why It's Wonderful: "The film, set in the vineyards of Northern California after World War II, tells the story of a young man [Keanu Reeves] and woman [Aitana Sánchez-Gijón] who meet at a time of crisis in their lives, agree to pretend to be married, and fall in love just when the pretense is about to fail. To a jaundiced eye, the film might look like melodrama, but perhaps one needs to have a little longing in one's soul to respond -- it sang to me."Best Line: "Newlyweds. What else do they do but make love and war?" (credit:Getty Images)

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