13 Utterly Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce

13 Utterly Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce
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There are few parenting moments more difficult than having to answer your kids' questions about the divorce.

No matter how much you prepared yourself for their inevitable confusion, those moments still manage to catch you off guard. How are you supposed to help them wrap their heads around life after divorce when you're still struggling to get a handle on it yourself?

HuffPost Divorce readers have experienced this firsthand. On Tuesday, our readers on Facebook and Twitter shared with us the questions from their kids they struggled to answer post-split.

Here's what they had to say:

1. "I just want you and daddy to be in the same house. Can't you just be roommates? For me?"

2. "When I told my 6-year-old son about the split, he said, 'Does this mean we'll be daddy-less kids?' Now that hurt."

3. "My 10-year-old son Michael asked, 'Will this home always be here for us?'"

4. "Will your new wife be our aunt, or what? 'Cause we already have a mom."

5. "At age five, my child asked, 'When does your heart tell your brain -- or your brain tell your heart -- you're not in love anymore?'"

6. "'Why did daddy break his promise to us?' He had promised to find a place to live close to us... then he moved to another city."

7. "What will happen when I get married and you two can't even be in the same room together at my wedding?"

8. "Why can't daddy's girlfriend just live here, too?"

9. "'How come you don't spend the night anymore?' and later, 'How come you and mommy didn't get along?'"

10. "Why didn't you leave dad a long time ago?"

11. "'Why doesn't daddy love us anymore?' They haven't seen him in one and a half years."

12. "Why don't you and daddy just stay together and work it out? You are supposed to be a team and a team works together, right?"

13. "Is it my fault?"

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Before You Go

What Celebs Said About Their Parent's Divorces
Nicole Richie (01 of11)
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In a 2004 interview with Oprah, Nicole Richie revealed how her dad Lionel Ritchie's 1993 divorce from her mother, Brenda, affected her at eight years old: "When my dad divorced my mom it was kind of like him leaving me also." (credit:AP Photo/Charles Sykes)
Christina Hendricks(02 of11)
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In the March 2012 issue of Cosmopolitan UK, Christina Hendricks opened up about her parents' split. The "Mad Men" star told the magazine that their divorce -- which happened just after she graduated from high school -- "didn't affect" her. "They hadn't been getting along for some time," she said. "I was like, 'Just get a divorce. Save yourselves.'" (credit:AP Photo/Alastair Grant)
Justin Bieber (03 of11)
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During a 2010 concert, Justin Bieber reportedly broke down after performing "Down to Earth," a song inspired by his parent's split, which happened when the pop star was three. "My parents splitting up is definitely not one of the highlights of my life. It's sad, the kid experiences feeling like one of his parents left," Bieber reportedly told Twist magazine in June 2010. "It makes you not feel so good. I think a lot of kids have had their parents split up, and they should know that it wasn't because of something they did." (credit:Matt Sayles/AP)
Khloe Kardashian (04 of11)
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In an April 2011 Us Weekly interview, Khloe Kardashian opened up about gaining weight after her parents' 1991 divorce: "My brother [Rob] and I were always heavy. They gave us food to keep us comforted. All we did was eat crap." (credit:AP Photo/Dan Steinberg)
Britney Spears (05 of11)
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In August 2002, Britney Spears had this to say about her parent's divorce that year: "It's the best thing that's ever happened to my family." (credit:AP Photo/Matt Sayle)
Johnny Depp (06 of11)
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Johnny Depp recently opened up about the response he had to his parents divorce as teen. According to the Daily Mail, the actor said, "I recall hearing my parents argue and thinking: 'Come on, this is torture. Just split!' They stuck it out until I was 15, but I'd seen it coming for years. When they finally did divorce, I thought: 'OK, this is the right thing'." (credit:AP Photo/Tim Aylen)
Pink (07 of11)
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In a 2007 interview with the Sunday Telegraph, singer Pink said she morphed into an angry teen following her parent's divorce. "I was never allowed to go over to any of my friends' houses when I was little, because I was the bad influence," she said. "None of their parents liked me and my own parents were scared to death of me -- and for me." (credit:AP Photo/Charles Sykes)
Justin Timberlake (08 of11)
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In the August 2011 issue of Elle, Justin Timberlake talked about the impact his parent's divorce had on him. "My parents divorced when I was three. I'm humbly and honestly finding out that I have a lot of issues with that," Timberlake told the magazine. "I'm finding more and more that... I'm going to break the chain because that's what you want to do, break the chain of your parents. But at some point, it's in your blood and you have a thing that happens and you're like, 'Holy s**t, my parents did that.'" (credit:AP Photo/Isaac Brekken)
Brooke Hogan (09 of11)
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In 2008, Brooke Hogan opened up about the closure she felt after parents, Hulk and Linda Hogan, divorced. "I was relieved to hear that the divorce was finally signed, sealed and delivered," she said. "They weren't good together. ... So it's like OK, everything's over, everything's done, you guys don't have to hate each other anymore." (credit:AP Photo/Frank Franklin II)
Carrie Fisher(10 of11)
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In a statement released after Elizabeth Taylor's death, Carrie Fisher got sentimental about her father's decision to leave her mother, Debbie Reynolds, for Taylor. "If my father had to divorce my mother for anyone -- I'm so grateful that it was Elizabeth," Fisher said. (credit:AP Photo/Evan Agostini)
Bette Davis (11 of11)
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Film legend Bette Davis allegedly had this to say about her parent's divorce, which occured when she was seven years old: "Of course I replaced my father. I became my own father and everyone else's." (credit:AP Photo )

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