Failure Is An Essential Element Of Success

So don't feel bad when it happens to you.
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A Princeton professor posts a powerful reminder that it's futile to compare one's failures to someone else's success.

Last month, a Princeton professor tweeted an unusual version of his CV that listed all of the fellowships, grants, degree programs and publications from which he was rejected.

Johannes Haushofer, an assistant professor of psychology and public affairs, wrote this explanation as a preface to his list of failures and rejections:

Most of what I try fails, but these failures are often invisible, while the successes are visible. I have noticed that this sometimes gives others the impression that most things work out for me. As a result, they are more likely to attribute their own failures to themselves, rather than the fact that the world is stochastic, applications are crapshoots, and selection committees and referees have bad days. This 'CV of Failures' is an attempt to balance the record and provide some perspective.

Indeed, failure is an essential element of success, as many entrepreneurs, inventors and leaders can attest. But that doesn't make it feel any easier when it happens. A rejection can easily send you spiraling, making you forget -- at least momentarily -- that failure can be a stepping stone to future triumph. 

Among psychologists, education and parenting experts, there's a renewed interest in researching our response to failure and the way it shapes our eventual achievements. Studies show that grit, not just intelligence, can predict whether a student will have academic success, and that having a "growth mindset" -- the belief that one can learn new skills and expand one's intelligence -- can influence achievement.

Stanford psychology researcher Kyla Haimovitz recently found that young children’s views on their own intelligence -- specifically, whether intelligence is fixed from birth or can be expanded -- may be shaped by observing their parents’ reactions to the child’s failures. The study showed that if a parent reacts anxiously or negatively to a child’s poor grade instead of teaching the child that there’s something to be learned, the child is more likely to believe that intelligence is predetermined and cannot be changed. 

The danger of comparing yourself to others

If you’re feeling like a loser after a failed effort, it’s probably because you’re comparing your list of failures, which you know all about, to other people’s successes, for which you know only part of the story.

When Haushofer first decided to list his failures in academia, he assumed that a few close friends and colleagues would get a laugh out of it and then move on. Instead, his list of failures resonated with people around the world. It won coverage from The Washington Post, CNBC, The Guardian and other media outlets.

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An excerpt of professor Johannes Haushofer's "CV of Failures." The resume is an impressive list of all the prestigious programs, fellowships and awards for which Haushofer applied but did not get.

Haushofer meant for his CV to be a commentary on the ups and downs of academic life, and links his willingness to be open about personal failures to a larger trend in science that encourages researchers to be forthcoming about failed experiments, results that didn’t replicate and data-sharing in general.

“Lots of people are dealing with a lot of pressure in academia, and it might be a useful conversation to have to think about new tools to help people deal with that pressure in academic jobs,” Haushofer told The Huffington Post. “My hope was, to some extent, that it would provide a sense of perspective to students and other young researchers, especially at times when things aren’t going so well."

Should you make your own CV of failures?

Haushofer’s project, which was inspired by Melanie Stefan, a lecturer at the University of Edinburgh, has inspired others to write out a list of their own failures. Although, ever the empiricist, Haushofer wants to qualify that there is no scientific evidence he’s aware of that suggests this would do anyone any good.

“It might be the case that more openness of this kind would maybe have positive consequences for psychological wellbeing, but I think that’s an empirical question that should probably be studied by someone,” he concluded.

Before You Go

7 Influential Women Who Failed Before They Succeeded
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An important part of achieving what we set out to do -- and something that seems to be particularly difficult for women -- is overcoming bumps in the road we may experience along the way. We forget that failure is often a necessary part of eventual success. In order to remind ourselves of this, we've gathered the stories of seven fearless women who experienced failure before ultimately becoming legends in their respective fields. (credit:Getty)
1. Lucille Ball(02 of08)
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Lucile Ball is now remembered as the first woman to run a major television studio (she gained full control of Desilu Productions in 1962) and the winner of most every major entertainment industry award (including 13 Emmy nominations and four wins), but her success was hardly immediate. In fact, Ball's first films were failures, and she was even dubbed the "Queen of the 'B' Movies" in the 1930s and 1940s. Luckily for all of us, Ball went on to star in "I Love Lucy" and pave the way for women in the entertainment industry. (credit:Wikipedia)
2. Marilyn Monroe(03 of08)
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Though Marilyn Monroe became a successful actress (whose films grossed more than $200 million), her first contract with Columbia Pictures expired in 1948 before she had acted in a movie. Soon after, though, Monroe met agent Johnny Hyde, who took her under his wing. Eventually she landed roles in "The Asphalt Jungle" and "All About Eve" and the rest is Hollywood history. (credit:Getty)
3. Oprah Winfrey(04 of08)
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Before Oprah hosted a talk show that dominated daytime TV for 25 years and became the queen of her own media empire, she was demoted at one of her early jobs. After working as a news co-anchor on Baltimore's WJZ-TV for seven and a half months in her early twenties, Oprah was put on morning TV (the "morning cut-ins" as she recalls) -- a significant step down from her original role. But the experience wasn't all bad: Oprah met her best friend Gayle while working in Baltimore, and her initial failure arguably launched her on her path to incredible career success. (credit:Getty)
4. Vera Wang(05 of08)
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Vera Wang's path to becoming the insanely successful designer she is today was hardly conventional. First, Wang -- who was a competitive figure skater in her youth -- failed to make the 1968 U.S. Olympic Figure Skating Team. Thankfully for fashion fans, this failure prompted Wang to take a job as an assistant at Vogue in 1971, where she was promoted to senior fashion editor within a year at 23. After 15 years with the magazine, Wang was ultimately passed over for the editor-in-chief position. But she ended up exactly where she needed to be and is now an incredibly successful and iconic fashion designer. It's hard to even think of wedding attire without her name coming up. (credit:Getty)
5. Stephanie Meyer(06 of08)
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Before the Twilight series broke sales records, author Stephanie Meyer faced the failure of rejection -- multiple times. Meyer wrote 15 letters to literary agencies and received 14 rejections. Luckily, one literary agent took her on and eight publishers bid on the rights to publish the now wildly successful series which ultimately earned the author a place on the 2011 Forbes Celebrity 100 List (and an ever-growing fortune to boot). (credit:Getty)
6. J.K. Rowling(07 of08)
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The Harry Potter author's story is practically the stuff of legends. Rowling wrote Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone (the first book in the series) as a struggling single mother on welfare and faced 12 rejections from publishers, eventually selling the book for the equivalent of $4,000. The series went on to break numerous sales records, be turned into an incredibly successfulfilm series and earn a permanent place in the hearts of children and adults all over the world. J.K. Rowling is now worth an estimated $1 billion. (credit:Getty)
7. Arianna Huffington(08 of08)
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Though Arianna Huffington is one of the most powerful businesswomen out there, she is the first to admit that she is no stranger to failure. While the first book Huffington wrote was well-received, her second book was rejected by 36 publishers. But failure, Huffington has said, is often the key to success. She told CNN this past March, "You can recognize very often that out of these projects that may not have succeeded themselves that other successes are built." She is now the author of 13 books as well as the President and Editor-in-Chief of the Huffington Post Media Group. (credit:Getty)

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